{"id":16055,"date":"2020-06-03T16:36:25","date_gmt":"2020-06-03T15:36:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/?p=16055"},"modified":"2020-06-03T16:37:32","modified_gmt":"2020-06-03T15:37:32","slug":"we-visited-my-boyfriends-family-nothing-remained-the-same-again","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/we-visited-my-boyfriends-family-nothing-remained-the-same-again\/","title":{"rendered":"We Visited My Boyfriend’s Family & Nothing Remained The Same Again"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Hi,<\/p>\n

My name is Ada (not real name). I am am 26 years old and I have been dating Ugo (not real name too) for almost a year. We met in the bank and Ugo has been one of the best men I have ever dated.Well behaved and I see everything in him as what I want for a future husband.<\/p>\n

I have been speaking to his folks on phone and so far,everything is cool. Only the mother though,if I don’t call her,she doesn’t call. She is in Calabar. Ugo always say not to mind her,that his mother is abit old fashioned. Anyways,I try to call but its tough\u00a0 with my job and other commitment.<\/p>\n

Two weeks ago,Ugo and I traveled to Calabar to meet his family Everyone was warm and nice. I was really looking forward to meeting the people who raised this fine young man that I am madly in love with.<\/p>\n

As expected,his mother didn’t warm up to me like his father and other siblings did. That began to scare me. My love assured me that everything will be ok,that I should just be myslf. When it was dinner time,they served a local calabar dish which I have never eaten before. To be honest,I really do not like soups or swallows.<\/p>\n

To make matters worse,this particular dish that was served smelled alot and it was said that it was a traditional delicacy. I swear,I just couldn’t eat it. So,I played around with it but I somehow became nauseous and I had to stop trying. Ugo’s mother instead of her to be understanding got upset and said I cannot marry her son if I do not learn to eat their kind of foods.<\/p>\n

At that point,I was upset. I didn’t come here to beg anyone to marry me. So,I replied her,its fine ma. I do not need your son if you think I am not good enough for him. Things escalated quickly. Even the family members that were nice to me,all of a sudden looked at me like I said something awful to their mother.<\/p>\n

Ugo asked me to apologize to his mother and I just started crying. Like,why will Ugo not even defend me instead,he is taking sides with his mother and family. I left very angry even though Ugo was asking me to calm down.<\/p>\n

I went and got a hotel where I spent the night. Would you believe Ugo didnt even come to see me if I was ok. He called to know where I was and I told him. He and I had our first major quarrel. I cried all through that night. When I called my friend though,she asked me to apologize to the mom and use diplomacy to deal with her since Ugo clearly loves me.<\/p>\n

The next day,I went to Ugo’s house,I knelt down and begged his mother. She grudgingly accepted my apology. I still felt betrayed. I was raised in a much different home than Ugo. I know most Nigerian families eat swallows but I do not eat it. I really do not like smelly local soups. I can manage stew and Okra but that is it.<\/p>\n

Now,Ugo’s mother is filling his head that if I do not know how to cook these Nigerian dishes like Egusi or Ogbonor or Vegetables,that our marriage will not work. Before now,Ugo ever really bothered if I could cook these foods or not but now,he tends to listen to what his mother says.<\/p>\n

I told him I would learn to cook these foods for his sake but even with that,things have not changed. Our relationship is strained since we got back from his folks place. I feel sad and uncertain and Ugo is not as warm as before. He actually said we need to get to know each other more before we get married.<\/p>\n

This same Ugo was ready to marry me yesterday. He did not care…he was just happy with the way I am. Now,he maybe doubting us. I love him so much. I do not want to loose him but something is telling me that I may already be loosing him. What do I do? I am desperate. I really love Ugo. Please advise me.<\/p>\n

Ada<\/p>\n

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Ugo’s mother instead of her to be understanding got upset and said I cannot marry her son if I do not learn to eat their kind of foods.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":16056,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[3],"tags":[2738,2739],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/distant.jpg","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16055"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16055"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16055\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16058,"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16055\/revisions\/16058"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16056"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16055"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16055"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/livelystones.ng\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16055"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}