Someone once said, “There is no ‘right’ kind of marriage. The couple involved need to make it right.” What makes a marriage work is something of a mystery because every marriage is unique. Still, there are ingredients—love, trust, compatibility, adjustment, etc.—that can make it stronger. Some people fall in love and then get married, others who have had an arranged marriage tie the knot after meeting each other just a couple of times and most do it without even being in love or knowing much about each other.
Does it mean people in an arranged marriage are less likely to be in love or find love compared to their counterparts who took the vows after becoming the victim of cupid? According to many couples who had an arranged marriage, they do fall in love and some have some defining moments while for others love just happens. So, let’s hear what a few Indian married couples said about the moment they fell in love with their spouse.
When she stayed with my mother in the hospital
“A few months after our marriage, my mother was hospitalized and she had to undergo surgery. My father was too old to visit her in the hospital and I had to be home with him. My wife then volunteered to be with my mother in the hospital.
She stayed with my mother for two weeks, took care of her like her own mother and during critical moments when the rest of the family members were at their wit’s end, she maintained her cool and consulted with the team of doctors for the right advice. The person whose existence I had no idea a few months back became my pillar of strength during the most challenging stage of my life. It was that moment I realised the importance of a life partner and my love and respect for her have grown stronger ever since,” shared Rajeev Pandey.
When my wife cried during her ‘bidaai’
It’s been seven years since we got married and to this day my friends and family tease me about how I had shed tears when I saw my wife crying during her ‘bidaai’. Ours is an arranged marriage and I met her just thrice before getting married. But when I saw her breaking down while bidding farewell to her parents after the wedding, I realized how difficult it must be for her to leave the comfort of her home and settle down with a man who is almost a stranger.
It was trust that was making her do so and when I realized this, I fell in love with her. That was a defining moment of my married life,” said Akshay Tripathi.
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Source: timesofindia.indiatimes.com
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