When it comes to s*x, it almost goes without saying that no two relationships are exactly the same. Some partners can’t keep their hands off each other, while others get intimate only on the rare occasion. Plenty of partners even have different s*xual appetites. There’s no wrong answer!
No matter the case, a sudden drop-off in bedroom action can take a toll on even the strongest relationships. As a lack of s*x leads to resentment and anger, those rising tensions could eventually blow up into a big old fight. What gives?
A dry spell doesn’t just change your relationship; there are ways not having s*x changes your health, too. Your brain releases fewer “feel-good” chemicals (such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins) when you stop having s*x. So in short, all of that pent-up anger might have something to do with your hormones.
But that’s not all. Research has also shown a link between satisfaction with our s*x lives and how we view our relationship’s stability, according to Amanda Gesselman, a social psychologist and research scientist at The Kinsey Institute. In other words, we might be quick to jump to negative conclusions if our partner says no to s*x.
“A person may interpret this decline as a signal that their partner no longer finds them attractive, no longer enjoys s*x with them, or no longer wants to be with them, even if none of these are true,” Gesselman told VICE.
Feeling rejected can spark insecurity, annoyance, and yes, anger; hence, the constant bickering. And once one partner loses their temper, that tension can turn the other partner off—and it’s all a downward spiral from there. Here’s why men say no to s*x (and what you can do about it).
The solution? Talk it out. Although it may not be easy to express your feelings of rejection at first, understanding and processing those emotions with your partner allows the both of you to be more honest about your desires and fantasies. That, in turn, means fewer arguments.
Now that you’ve aired out your dirty laundry, it’s time to get down and dirty—in the bedroom, that is. Feel free to experiment, too! “A lot of couples tend to default to intercourse,” Vanessa Marin, a Los Angeles-based therapist, told VICE. “You have to create a bigger menu. There’s a lot of different ways to have s*x, but we lose our creativity and think that we’ve got to do the same old, same old.”
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True. S.e.x brings couples together… It is very important