We have seen it all. A woman meets the man of her dreams( as she would often describe him during the first few months of their relationship!). They date, and before you know it, the once-sweet relationship starts heading south. That all-too- perfect man becomes Mr. ‘Prick’ or Mr. Know-it-all. And the girl starts cursing the very day, she met the dude.
Others try everything they can to revive the ailing relationship, but all to no avail. The relationship is now on its death throes, and will soon be dead and buried.
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But before that all too-familiar scenario sets in, there are ways to prevent it. And if you are already in one, here are a few pieces of advice that will help you make your relationship stand the test of time.
Dear sister, to be able to make the right decisions in relationships, you must first know ‘what is right’.
If you have to choose to marry or stay single for a few more years; which would you choose, and why? Both choices are good in their own right, but choose which one is better for you.
If you are already in a relationship, and you have an heated argument with your partner; do you retort to hurtful words or bite your tongue and let it pass out of love for him? Doing what is right or making the right decision requires a great deal of self-control and a high level of maturity.
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Don’t be caught dead at the end of the day with this statement:
‘what was l thinking?’
When it comes to romantic decisions, there are so many guidelines. But the king of them all is this : ‘Do not have very high expectations in relationships, or you are bound to be heartbroken’.
It is not totally bad to set standards in a relationship, but once you set a grid that your man must follow; then, that’s where the trouble starts. Once what you want is not what you are getting at any moment, your doubts would creep on the window, and all the love inside you would start crawling out of the door.
Look for a man who would supplement you, not one who would complete you. Completion is hard to achieve, and it is a personal thing, but balance or Harmony is an achievable human feat.
Look for a man with whom you can have fun with. Be with a man who will not push you to pretend, or force you to always try to impress him, but with a man that makes you relax and be yourself. A man that you can discuss anything and everything with. A man that makes you laugh and play like a kid.
Always remember this ladies
How he treats the waiter and his subordinates will show how he will treat you after months of dating. So be wary too, of how he treats everyone around him.
Knowing exactly whom you want is just one side of the coin. Who you are and who you would be is an important factor. Are you willing to compromise? Or must you seek to have your way in every heated argument?
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What about the career that you would take, how do you think that lt would affect your relationship? Is he someone that gets jealous when he sees you having fun with your male colleagues? Is he someone that becomes suspicious every time you spend an extra hour or two at work? Is he willing to sustain a long distance relationship, when your work schedules takes you away from him?
To cap it all, what is important is to know what you really want in a relationship: be ready to forgive when offended.
And be a living proof of what you would want your partner to be.
You see, respect begets respect, trust brings trust, and love sows love.
I hope you find that Mr Right, that your soul craves for.
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