Hopelessly In Love With My Boyfriend But There Is Someone Else In The Picture
Good evening,
Its Mabel (not real name)from Facebook. The story is long but the main thing is I have a boyfriend that has another girlfriend. At first when we started he didn’t tell me but along the line he did but told me to give him time which I did.
We have been friends for about four years before he asked me out, I was even surprised I never expected, so I rejected him but later accepted when I discovered I loved him. He told me it was when I refused then the girl came inside the picture.
But out of jealousy I always complained to him about the stuff of double dating coz I don’t do it and I don’t expect my boyfriend to double date. And the worse is the girl he is dating happens to be someone I know very well not friends sha.
Then one day I got really angry and told him to make his choice and let one go but what he said was that God has not revealed to him so he wants to take things easy and wait till God speak to him.
Actually he told me about the girl but didn’t tell the girl about me, (but now he has)
So I told him not to talk to me till he has made his choice, I ignored all his text messages, phone calls and chats for two days when he sent me a text that his has tried talking to me but I won’t give a chance and he has known that I just claimed to love him but I don’t.
Then I replied and tried explaining to him how I don’t like the fact that he is double dating and am still in the relationship because I love him. He said he loves me and wept before sending me the text.
Then he asked me what I wanted to do is it to break up with him or for us to just continue and forget the fact that he is dating another girl. Now am confused I really do love him and won’t want to break up with him but at the same time I don’t want my boyfriend to date another girl worse of it is someone I know and school with.
And when he finally told the girl about me the girl chatted me up using some kind of abusive words indirectly, she even told him we about our chat and he asked me when I told him she was abusive indirectly but all he could say is I was the one that had her time that I wouldn’t have then he said I should block her.
This August made them a year and we nine months but still yet he can’t even make his choice. Please advise me.
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Hope he’s not sleeping with you as he’s yet to make up his mind o? Just asking so that you don’t enter one chance with that guy.
As far as I’m concerned a guy that double dates and can’t make up his mind on who to date is just playing you both.
Ditch him and run to avoid stories that touch.
Girlfriend he’s wasting your time.
This guy is not serious. He is probably a polygamist and not willing to commit to either of you but rather to keep both of you.
I think you should still give him that space and let him be.
Try and focus on other areas of your life to keep you busy because It is obvious you don’t want to be in their love triangle.
Don’t settle for less. Don’t get desperate, don’t be caught in a limbo of instability, don’t fight with the other girl, don’t limit yourself. There are many men out there that will love and value you like you deserve without putting you in a triangle.
What are you still doing there?
Bia nne find your square root,why are you still with that boy?Get or find a matured guy wey sabi jare,the guy just dey chop here and there,chop and clean mouth.
The dude is obviously confused which is not a good sign. People get diplomas in 6 months, how long will it take him to make up his mind or go on a retreat to hear from God concerning the both of you and the other lady.?
Give him space until he’s sure you’re for him and you alone. If not, let him shift and don’t block the right person. Cheers.
This is the part where I tell ladies: put some respek on yourself!
How can a guy be dating you and someone else and you are busy asking what to do?
Do you not know that you are special,you are smart and beautiful and desrve to be treated as a queen and without disrespect!!!
That guy is just a player…loose his number. He never really loved you..
And be free from trash talk like those.