True Life Story: I Caught My Wife To Be Still Talking To Her Ex
Dear Lively Stones,
My girlfriend (Geena) and are planning to get married but I just discovered she is still talking to her ex. We dated off and on for a few years before I relocated to Bayelsa for my job transfer. During that time, our relationship suffered long distance challenges, even though I loved my girl, I could see that the job was making it difficult for us to communicate regularly. I work in a private oil company and the schedule is so tight as their Accountant. My girl complained alot that I was not picking my calls or calling her regularly.
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We had a tough argument and my girlfriend broke up with me. I was upset that she was not being patient but she too was upset that I was neglecting her. So breaking up seemed like we had no choice. Eventually, I heard she was dating someone and I could see from her socials that she was living large…who ever was the man in her life was clearly spending alot on her.
Anyways, we both moved on. I have not been in a serious relationship cos girls around here, that is story for another day. Its been a casual thing for me. Two years past, I got a promotion and was sent back to Lagos Head office. I did not contact my Geena (my ex) cos I knew she too had moved on. But as fate would have it, I ran into her at former mutual friend’s birthday party. I did not recognize her cos she was different. It turned out her ass was bigger than I remember…we said hello and we both didnt speak at the party.
However, a few days later, she chatted me…said she was glad we met and before you knew it… she was asking me if I was seeing anyone. I told her no…she then shows up at my place…we hooked up and truly, the attraction was still there. I asked and she told me she broke up with her fiancé….that the guy wanted to control her…bla bla bla…she then told me that the guy made her get a BBL…that is why her ass is so huge… I was like…that is crazy.
Much as I disliked BBL or girls who do it, Geena and I have been going steady and I told her I wanted us to get married, she agreed. We have chosen the first week of June for our marriage introduction. One of my sisters called me and asked why my girl got a BBL, I explained that it happened when we were apart. She then asked…how will we be maintaining it? I was like, maintaining it? That was when I learnt that anyone who does BBL have to follow up maintenance procedures.
I never knew about this and my sister said its expensive too. So I asked my girl, how she pays for the BBL maintenance….she said she manages with her own money. I told her to think about removing the BBL…she said its too dangerous to remove but my sister said its better to remove it. Anyway, I never thought much about it. Its her body and she can do whatever pleases her…besides, I don’t judge women who want to look good. But the problem now is, I just found out that my girl is still seeing that guy that made her get a BBL.
This happened because the guy found out she was getting married and got upset that Geena was engaged and was still collecting money from him. So he sent her a message which I stumbled on. After reading the message…Geena did not deny it…she said she was still collecting money from the guy but they are not sleeping together. Why collect money from him then? She said because he was the one who made her get BBL and so she collects the money for her BBL maintenance.
Truth, the guy stated in his message that Geena has refused to have s3x with him yet she collects money from him. So that confirms they are not together but she was collecting money cos of the BBL. To me, I was quite upset but I se her point…they guy made her do the BBL in the first place… My only anger is, if she continues to collect money, he will definitely want s3x with her…so I told her to stop collecting money and fund the BBL maintenance by herself or she can take out the BBL if she cannot maintain it.
The later on, I discovered by reading online that the BBL maintenance is not supposed to be until about 5 or 10 years depending on your body. So I asked Geena why she collected money for BBL maintenance when its not up to 5 years she did it. Geena then confessed that she did not know, she said she thought its after 3 years so she wanted the guy to pay for the BBL…Geena has asked for my forgiveness and said she was genuinely thinking it was 3 years. I felt very confused and betrayed.
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Please Geena is telling lies….I do not believe she does not know when the BBL maintenance is due…I feel she was still collecting money from this guy and this guy was hoping they get back together…the guy was really shocked that Geena was engaged….Too many lies. I feel Geena is still interested in the guy and his money and even though the guy’s message said that Geena has been dodging him, meaning they have not had s3x for but Geena asking him for money is making the guy have hope.
To me, Geena was deceiving the guy and eating his money while with me….I do not like such a behavior but her excuse was she was saving money for BBL maintenance…can you imagine? Cos of my anger, Geena has now agreed to remove the BBL, to prove that she will no longer be talking to her ex….I only wish she was honest…she should have cut off all ties with the guy…no matter the excuse…..she has apologized and I want to forgive Geena and move on but I do not want to be played for a fool…
In your opinion, can I still trust Geena?
Anonymous
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Dear poster,Geena is not to be trusted,she is materialistic,she loves things of the world,did her ex put cutlass or knife on her neck to do BBL? Where is her family? It’s obvious she’s not from a very good family,you better watch the kind of family you’re marrying into…..
How are you sure Geena is not giving her ex sex? Is it because he didn’t really lay more emphasis on the sex aspect,he was only after the money he was giving Geena or rather the money Geena was collecting from him…
My brother, be careful ooooo,can you maintain,fund and sustain Geena’s new life style…
Put a pause to whatever introduction you intend doing,hold on,take a chill pill,look before you leap,never cross express,wait small, never over speed biko,this is marriage,don’t do anything you will regret in few weeks of marriage…..
Geena is not sincere, she’s not honest,she didn’t break up with her ex,she only lied to you… Be wise bro! You need a supportive woman,a woman that would help you to grow your resources not the one that will spend your money on designers, maintenance on BBL, asoebi and make-up… I rest my case
Dear poster
Your girl in no doubt still loves material benefit from her ex and her materialistic lifestyle made her have BBL even if she wasn’t forced, that’s reality and truth of the matter, she might just be pushing the narrative on her ex rather it was her interest.
The focal point to take note of is If your girlfriend is still talking to her ex, it means that she’s still living in the past. You can’t have a present and future with someone who’s still stuck in the past. It’s just not possible.
If your girlfriend is still talking to her ex, it means she’s not over him… so what I would do is let her go or trying to convince her to be in the present?.
Well let me advice you as a brother tell her you appreciate the time together and you’re done. If you care to leave things open, let her know that she needs to go back to her ex, and resolve the past… If she’s able to do that than let her know to get in touch. In the mean time don’t wait around.
Now’s your chance to better yourself and meet someone who’s living in the present and wants to have a future with you. It won’t be easy if you love her but trust me…. The ex will never go away. They will haunt you and one day when you’ve had a bad fight or she gets bored. Guess who she will be texting behind your back, and maybe even meeting up with I guess you already know. Never get involved with a woman who’s not over her ex.
When exes are lurking in the background, it is a big red flag.
The woman you call “girlfriend” should have cut all contact with her exes (you should have also). This “ex” story is a very bad sign.
And I use to say: “When there’s another man in the picture, there’s really just one man in the picture”.
And I find it funny when people say you are jealous, insecure, etc. What about you talking to your exes and being “friends” with them? How would she feel about that?
On a serious note Love and benefits in triangles are no fun. I guess you already know what to do? what I did up there is to open your understanding about the situation or matter on ground.
Best wishes brotherly
Sir u are doing well…..my advise let there be an ultimatum bbl removed or no marriage becos she playing you both…..my 2cent
Olosho wey boys take dey quench body na wetin you wan put for house as wife. We are here waiting for i want to do a DNA test for my kids.
You don’t domesticate a wild animal.
I pray for you may God deliver you from your simps.
Let her remove it and stop collecting money
chatting with that guy , then we can know whether we could trust her or not.
For now WE are good
Dear Poster,
Pause everything about the marriage.
Your girlfriend needs to remove the bbl first.
Then, both of you need to undergo a marriage class and be sure to observe her commitment and responses.
Moreso, you have to be sure she isn’t materialistic.If you send her ex packing , she may become too demanding and if you don’t meet up, she will find another man to be giving her money.
Some ladies believe in settling down with the man that loves them and still have those they collect money from to maintain their so-called social life and exorbitant lifestyle.
I hope she won’t drive you crazy with her demands in the future or frustrate you with her cheating.
You may speak for yourself but not for every other person. Your girlfriend may or may not be trusted to stick by you for a long time without cheating.
All the best.