How Do I Get Rid Of My Best Friend Before Its Too Late-Please Advise
Be careful who you call your friends. I only wish that listened to this warning but I trusted Cece (not real name) like a sister. We were friends from year one. I met her during matriculation day. She had not gotten her accommodation and she was so worried. I offered her to come stay in my room and that is how we became room mates and best friends for all the years we were in school together.
Cece and I were so close that even our families knew each other. I spent several holidays in their house and she did same too. We graduated and even worked our service year to the same place so we can be together. It was during orientation camp that Cece met David. David was after Cece but Cece did not seem interested. Infact, she used to underrate him and say he was not her class.
So after camp, we got deployed to different local government and that is how I found out David was in my LCDA. We would just say hi and hello but after we met one day at a canteen.,we got talking and it was really surprising that David was really someone very nice. I liked him. I wondered why Cece called him low life. David is very intelligent and knows what he wants.
I texted Cece that I met David and we are now friends but I didn’t tell her when David and I started to date cos I did not want her to discourage me cos I liked David and she thought him a low life. I pretty much kept my relationship with David away from her. I was happy and David was such a great guy.
After service year, David and I continued our relationship. He proposed three months after his first job. I was working with my Aunty’s company. At this rate, I was so happy and of course, you cannot keep an engagement a secret. I told Cece and she was shocked. She said that she didn’t even know we were serious. I told her so many nice things about David and she said…hmm..be careful, you just never really know a guy.
Well, that is why I didn’t want to tell her cos of her bad belle. But to my uttermost surprise, this witch of a girl, Cece called David and told him that she is surprised that she went after me, her friend and engaged her in just a little over a year. That she likes him but she was playing hard to get because she wanted him to fight for her.
Hmm…David started to behave like someone under a spell…he became very friendly around Cece and I did not like their closeness. They would joke that if only she agreed first, he would have married her. I don’t know why that was funny to both of them. I told David I didn’t like the joke and he apologized. However, I noticed, David and I never could go back to how we were before.
We began to have disagreements like we never had before. And one time, David now said,maybe we are rushing this marriage thing. Maybe we should slow down. I was heartbroken cos I knew Cece was behind it. I told him to go and be with Cece if he wants to. I said that in anger and he called me insecure brat. I did not speak to him for 3 days and he did not call. When I called him, he apologized, I did too and we made up.
Now, my issue is: I want to cut off Cece cos she is up to no good. She flirts and fills David head with her manipulative ways. I know she may not directly try to steal him from me but she manipulates me and David and that makes both of us question our love for each other. I told David I want us to cut off Cece and he says I am just being paranoid for nothing. That he chose me…how would he choose someone who rejected him before?
So why does my heart beat fast when I think of the fact that David still maybe attracted to Cece? He may love me but the attraction may still be there and if Cece and I remain friends…I fear what could possibly happen. I mean, how dare she even tell him she liked him and was laying hard to get before I came into the picture? Why are men like this…he even laughed at her stupid joke.
My mother has asked me to be very careful and prayerful but beyond that, I want to tell Cece to stay clear of my life and out of David’s. Will that be too extreme? Am I being paranoid? My brother said if I cannot be 100% confident of David , that I should pause. I love David. I cannot bear the thought of loosing him. How do I get rid of Cece? Should I talk to her or should I ignore her and trust David not to fall for her tricks or should I consider what my brother said:to pause?
I am really worried…please advise.
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Nne if you are sure you love David you better protect him well so that what happened in the Bible will not repeat itself here oooo,before Cece go enter bathroom go dey baf now and David go just begin peep her ooo. You have to call him to order,he has to reduce or if possible cut off any friendship he has with Cece,for God sake he is engaged to be married to you,so why is he flirting with her and also making jokes like if she had agreed earlier,na she him for marry,abeg that kind joke is too expensive ooo,protect your man,protect his cucumber, protect his gbola,because e get why oooo. Stay away from that Cece, she doesn’t like the fact that you are happy with King David. I wish you well my sister from unfriendly friends and frienemy. Udo
I will do everything to stop such a person coming to my house.. by this I mean cut off all ties. Don’t pretend to be happy when she is around you.. keep a straight face.. frown at any mumu joke. Nobody go tell her to move.. that your friend doesn’t mean well oooo..
Being a man, I can tell you this; David doesn’t know what he wants. He is immature and insecure. Leave him. He called you an “insecure brat” just after engagement, men don’t just say anything that comes to mind when annoyed, women do that, for he to have insulted you in such manner, leave him. Do not go into a marriage that’ll make you do lot of midnight prayers. Today it’s CeCe, tomorrow it gonna be another. He isn’t ready for commitment.