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Ma, his parents house that am staying they don’t allow me to go out I can’t see my relatives and that my aunt I don’t want to go back to her house. When I was staying there with her she make me go to sleep with men for money I don’t want to leave that kind of life again.
I want to leave the house but his mom watch all my movement all the time and if any of my relatives comes around she thinks I pack her food stuff to my relatives if anything is missing in the house she will say am the one that take it to give my relatives am an orphan.
I don’t know where to go to or how to start i can’t leave the house for a minute.
Sometimes she will say I went to see my boyfriend right now am trying to talk to my uncle to help me out and my grandpa but they say I should wait after this lock down of a thing.
Please right now am losing my mind already. I don’t have money or any thing I can call my own and they don’t want me to learn any hand work. I just have my o level results I know how many men I slept with just to finish my secondary school.
I am losing my mind. Please I need any help, advice to me.
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Just calm down try to be calm I know it’s not going to be easy but for now be calm and patient till the lockdown is over since you have no where to go it is well with u my heart goes out to you I pray u find peace till situation changes it is well
Pls just try and endure until d lockdown is over, since ur uncle and grandpa has accepted to help u. Try n manage with d little they r giving u and as well tell ur relatives to stop coming for nw until u sort urself out. Only put ur trust on God for he will surely see u 2ru
Sorry about what you are passing through. As I said on the earlier part. You should focus on adding value to yourself so the man can value you. Try to make them see reasons… Anything else apart from that, you would just be seen as a nuisance
Prayerfully ask God to help you. Be sincere and he will direct you on where to go. One thing is sure,you must leave that place.
Be patient, wait until after the lockdown. Start doing something you like, singing, cleaning, reading or listening. And pray. Just pray and keep your mind busy. Don’t think or ponder on this situation so you don’t lose your mind. Since you posted this, it means you have a phone so, listen to music or any trade your want to learn, start watching it’s video on YouTube until the lockdown is over then call them back to help you with money to start or fine where to become an apprentice. Plan your exit to take effect immediately after the lockdown. But don’t put your whole mind in those people in case they don’t come through else you’ll feel really bad and lose your mind like you said. Have plans ready. The lockdown is almost over.
It’s well dear. Be encouraged.
I feel your pain and I will advise you to be patient.the lock down will be over soon God Almighty is doing something about your situation.i encourage you to to always say the right things at all times no matter what you are faced with.you are not going to loose your mind..hold on a little more help is on the way..
Don’t allow them to cage you in that place
Be outspoken. Let them know you have a life to live and you can’t continue like this
But for the main time just be patient till after lockdown. And don’t rest in terms of prayer, pray your way out of this situation.
God will help you
Good one
It is going to be fine. God is the father of the fatherless. How well do you know God? I want you to give your life to Christ by asking Him to forgive you all the wrongs you have done. Begin a father-daughter relationship with God. By that, you will have peace with God and peace of mind. Because of the restriction on worship centres, you may not be able to attend a bible believing church for now, but if you are in the East, you can locate one.
I believe God will use your uncle as he has promised.
For now, plead with your in-laws that you want to do something. Prayerfully beg them. I believe God will touch them. If you know how to make hair, you can start with that.
Don’t give in to despair. God will surely see you through. Cheers.
Hello madam,
Sorry for what you are going through, patient is the key, if you can endure till now that means you can’t die.
Don’t just only wait for lockdown to be over, start planning your life, do not only wait on your family to help you, they can disappoint you.
Make a concrete plan that can help your life to grow.
Check your self what you can do to generate income and make life out it.
Pls, plan your self well so that you won’t go back to the old life.
Also pray hard to God to direct your step.
Regards.
Hello dear, Every situation we go through in life makes or mar us. All i will advise is for you to be patient, then commune to God for direction. Am sure he will guide you on the best thing to do. Don’t take any decision out of frustration, esle you may regret. Am sure most of LS members are praying for you as i do. God bless you.
That is illegal custody. Staying there against your will.
Asking your relatives for help is still the best option to take for you to leave that house. You need to keep letting them know about how sad you are about the place and how bad they are treating you.
Although you might need to wait till the end of this whole lockdown / coronavirus period because things are currently hard for most families at the moment and they won’t want to add more feeding mouth to the ones they are still struggling to feed.
Just keep reminding them that you really need to leave, so that they will never forget about you. Also, so that they can prepare well for it before you move to their place, likewise you. Have alternatives too, incase your relatives dissapoint, let there be another viable alternative to look up to.
About you not being able to leave the house, have your relatives discussed with them that they want to take you away from there? If not, tell your relatives to discuss it out with them. That they should stop holding you back against your will. If your relatives don’t support it, they will feel goaded to send you out..
Lastly, if it is still difficult to leave that house, then start causing problems for them. Be rude, be lazy, be hesitant about work, things concerning them. It could portray a bad character of you to them, but never mind. Be more desperate to leave. When they know you can’t be tamed again, they will let you out. One day they will understand you became like that because of them forcing u to stay with them. But only try this if you were still unable to leave after the lockdown period because if you should do this now, they will maltreat you more and you won’t have anyone to run to for help.
Remain prayerful and also while you are trying to leave, never forget your daughter. Always fight for her custody whenever u try to leave because if you leave her there, the maltreatment you avoided, they will rain it upon her.
That’s why I think you need to let your relatives interfere and discuss it out with the guy’s parents, so that you won’t face all these confrontations alone without any support or pillar.
May God help you.
Hello,
I thank God for you because there’s a Ray of Hope in the corner for you.
Don’t lose your mind, right? The fact that you had contacted your Uncle and Grandpa with their promises to come to your aids after this Lock – down is comforting enough.
You should excercise more patient and be more prayerful…..and also respect the family of the guy you are living with and abide by their rules.
Just in a little while more there shall be solution for you.
Please don’t give up…believe in yourself. Believe also in God. Get closer to Him and He will see you through.
God bless you.
There is speed in patience. Wait
It’s really well oo, my dear don’t worry all will be well,may the countance of the Lord shine upon,the Lord will order ur steps to meet with someone who will of help to you,just try to be patient with them, especially that woman that feels that she can monitor u so that u not run away with their daughter, just be calm n make plans without anyone knowing or thinking that u have anything in mind,make ur plans n make them perfectly n the take them by surprise by the time they realize u will be far away from them,n wen u eventually leave that hell of a house, look for something to do, work, house help, learn a skill like hairdressing or tailoring etc to help urself n ur daughter if u decide to take her with u,n again, don’t allow any man deceive u n get u pregnant in the name of I love with u talk, if not u might still fyn urself in the same shit thinking that he loves u,n I any man comes to u n start preaching love,n marriage,tell him to come n marry u straight up.shikna
All you need to do here is pray to God for guidance. However keep in touch with your Uncle and keep reminding him too. Prayerfully Draw out a plan of what you want to do when you get out of there.