Marriage Is A Big Deal But I Am Caught Between Two Women-Pls Advise
Hello,
Please post this for me. I have a situation on my hands and I need advise on the best way to deal with this. My name is Lanre (not real name). I am 34 years old and I have two ladies in my life that I feel anyone of them can be my wife but choosing which one has been my problem.
So, Angela (not real name) is a doctor. We met two years ago. She is smart and very beautiful. I can say that we are soul mates cos we can talk and laugh for so long. She likes the things that I like, she is ambitious and pushes me to be my best self. The best part is …she is my spirit animal in s*x. We have been able to explore and enjoy intimacy in our relationship. She makes me happy cos she is so s*xy.
The only issue I have with Angela is that she is not domestic like Kate (not real name), my second girlfriend. Kate works a secretary in a company. Kate is pretty but not as pretty as Angela but her character and personality is so cool. She is religious, likes to pray and she will make a good wife material no doubt. She cooks and cleans and very domesticated.
Kate however, is not great in the s*x department. She is not bad but compared to Angela…she is no where close. Its been almost two years too with Kate and she has been inching she wants to get married and if I am not ready, she moves on.
Meanwhile, Angela is not even bothered about marriage. She even wants to do her PHD in medicine. She would love to get married but having kids are not in her plans now. At my age, I would really love to settle down but I feel even though I have these two women around me, I do not have the perfect woman ready for me now.
Angela is not a home maker …she is a career minded person. I told her that I love her and want her to be my wife …she said yes but no kids until after her PHD cos she does not want any distractions. I fear that her career will always come before her family but I cannot stop thinking about her.
I thought about Kate…she is the ideal woman but I do not feel the same excitement when am around Angela. Marriage is a big deal and I do not want to regret my decision….if you were in my shoes, what will you do? So, should I marry for the excitement or settle for someone who will be a home maker but intimacy will just be average performance?
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Hmmm… This is a tough decision for you as a young man. But without mincing words, I want to say this LIFE IS SPIRITUAL think about this statement. There’s more than meet the eye than S.e.xiness. When trouble comes knocking, who will answer you, Kate or Angela which one of them do you think has the stamina?
You need to seek the face of God concerning your choice sir. Only God, Him alone knows what’s best for you. We can only guide you with the help of the Holy Spirit but we can choose for you.
Go before God and present the matter to Him. And stay with Him until you get an answer no matter how long it may take. Are you hearing this sir? Don’t be anxious, and don’t be “pressured” get it and get it right.
When all is said and done, you’ll look back and give Jesus praise for His divine direction in leading you to His perfect Will.
God bless you.
Hmmm… This is a tough decision for you as a young man. But without mincing words, I want to say this LIFE IS SPIRITUAL think about this statement. There’s more to marriage than S.e.xiness or career. When trouble comes knocking, who will answer, You, Kate or Angela? which one of you do you think has the stamina?
You need to seek the face of God concerning your choice sir. Only God, Him alone knows what’s best for you. We can only guide you with the help of the Holy Spirit but we can’t choose for you.
Go before God and present the matter to Him. And stay with Him until you get an answer no matter how long it may take. Are you hearing this sir? Don’t be anxious, and don’t be “pressured” get it and get it right.
When all is said and done, you’ll look back and give Jesus praise for His divine direction in leading you to His perfect Will.
God bless you.
You already know the best person to marry na,so why are you bothered? At 34,you should know what is best for you considering the fact that marriage is a life time journey. Without wasting time,biko marry Kate,she is already telling you about it. You can teach her the things you want and with time she will blend to the kind of woman you desire.
It is apparently you are confused and you dont know what you really want in a woman. Marriage is a covenant and once you are in, it may be difficult to come out unless you want divorce which is not a best option.
In your story, amazingly, you stated your problem and you also give the solution, that means you know the truth but you are just ingnoring it.
Proverb says beauty is deceitful and favor is in vain, a woman that fears the Lord shall be praise.
*Beauty, good S.e.x, good profession, ambition can never keep a marriage but good character will always do.*
If some one is already giving you condition in your relationship, then be ready for more conditions when you are married. You have a woman that loves God, prays, homely, committed, which you can always teach her good S.e.x and how to be more attractive.
My brother marriage is not a fairy tale o, it is a serious business, you have to be sacrificial and be intentional about it or else you will jump in and jump out.
Lastly, search your inner mind, I would have said you should pray but you don’t sound like a prayeful person, tell yourself the truth, highlight what you really want in a woman and once you see it, go for it.
Your story shows you are a greedy man, dating two ladies, you are greedy man, you said Angela makes you happy cos she is S.e.xy…..that’s one of the most stupid statement I have heard in my life, you even said Kate is religious she like to pray but not good in bed like Angela, where is her so called being religious, we love deceit and lies shaaa, all those telling you to pray and follow Holy Spirit, I wonder which Holy Spirit they are referring too, you have been fornicating all these while, and you think it’s cool man. Im terribly sorry for you, some other repliers may lie to you but I won lie to you man. FLEE FORNICATION man. GOD bless you Man.
Go for Kate! At 34,you should know what u want! Marriage is beyond S.e.xiness nd beauty
At this age u shd be preparing to have ur own kids