Hello ma,
Please hide my identity because some of my friends read your blog. I am 27 years old and I am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years. Anytime I ask him what his plans for us,he will tell me to be patient, that he wants things to be better for him financially.
My boyfriend is a business man that deals on motor parts and this pandemic is really affecting import,so things have been kind of tough for his business. But before that,he has not really been direct on marriage plans and sometimes,I feel like giving him an ultimatum after two and half years of dating.
Anyway,I moved in with him during the lock down,just to be close to him. His brother lives with him. The brother is training to be a priest,as he is in seminary school. Naturally,when my boyfriend is not around,we gist and I sometimes tell my frustration with my boyfriend not yet proposing.
In three years time,I will be 30,and it does not look like I will be getting proposed to. Godwin,(not real name) who is my boyfriend’s brother would be asking me what I am doing with a man who does not know how beautiful I am.He would jokingly say if he was not sworn to celibacy,he would marry me off his brother.
When he makes those statements,I used to laugh. But three weeks ago,my boyfriend and I had a fight. Something around his not showing enough commitment in our relationship. That made me leave his place and returned back to mine. He didn’t even bother to call me or text me for 2 whole days.
I then called Godwin to complain again. Godwin later came to visit me. Again,he started telling me not to mind his brother,that he is not serious. That I should find someone who would love me and treat me like a queen. I was like:yea right…someone like you abi?
I told him,guys like you dont exist cos they are in seminary. Godwin held my hand and told me he is available if I will let him. I was confused,is Godwin flirting with me? Why would he be saying such a thing,while I was still trying to process this,Godwin kissed me.
My first reaction was: this is not happening…no way I am kissing my boyfriend’s brother that is a priest in training. But Godwin is such a good kisser,I didn’t know when I started to respond to him. Long story short, we both lost our senses and had s*x right here in my sitting room.
For the first time,I realized Godwin is such a handsome man,very muscular and darn s*xy. He knew how to handle me,I was completely weak…I just couldn’t stop with him. Now,I thought this was going to be a one time mistake and it will never happen again but who am I to kid?Godwin came to see me every day after that,and we mad passionate love.
I told myself its because I have been neglected so long by my boyfriend who has not even called me since our fight. But every time Godwin came,he brought gifts for me,took care of me,cooked for me,cleaned for me…anything I wanted,he provided…and he held me so gently that I lost my common sense.
Godwin wants to leave seminary school for me. He says he wants to marry me. I am confused. I know I love him but is that even possible,to love someone in just 2 weeks? Or is this just the way he is treating me? No man has ever treated me so good like before,not even my boyfriend whom I have dated for 2 years.
Plus,Godwin quiting seminary for me? Is that right,will God forgive us? He said he feels he was called to serve as a priest but meeting me has changed that. That he would become a pastor now,so he can be married to me. Its still ok to be a pastor right,abi…will God punish him for choosing to be a pastor instead of a priest?
Godwin says the bible allows one to marry instead someone to burn out of desire…I still don’t know…What if he resents me later for making him loose his calling to be a priest and be celibate?
More importantly,how do we face his brother who is my boyfriend? What of their family? What will my own family say? Godwin keeps telling me that I should not worry what people say because it does not matter.
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Do you know,its now that my boyfriend is calling me back,after 3 weeks? I have been ignoring his calls and I know soon,he will show up in my place because he is begging me,lets talk. Godwin said I should break up with him so we can be together…the confusion in my head is not small…
I swear,I feel this relationship with Godwin will be good for me,but why do I feel so uneasy about it? Godwin is so hot and I cant stop thinking about him. Why am I loosing my mind?Or is this God’s will for me? Because to be honest,Godwin is so good to me…Please help me make the right choice?
From anonymous Lively Stones Member
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Be PATIENT…you are trying to make a decision based on your emotions. Give it time, a whole lot of it, and you will discover that love is not a feeling and a one time thing, but a COMMITMENT to love against all odds irrespective of the challenges my dear. Let your heart guide you, not your FEELINGS or emotions even your head but your heart. Don’t RUSH!
I have been in a situation like this.mine was not blood sisters but friends n I can tell you u will regret and waste no matter how beautiful and sweet it is now .leave both of them and move me on, avoid this disgrace now and save.tell the priest not to come to ur place again and find ways to break up with the brother too.if he can do this to his brother then u r nothing
I have been in a situation like this.mine was not blood sisters but friends n I can tell you u will regret and waste no matter how beautiful and sweet it is now .leave both of them and move me on, avoid this disgrace now and save ur life
My dear, it’s not good to be entangled with two brothers. You need to separate yourself from both of them and think straight. If you are going to continue with the first boyfriend, I think you should open up to him about what happened. But the second one is a no go area.
My dear I would advice you to leave the both brothers and move on.
Any guy that can hurt his own blood brother in such capacity is not to be trusted.
If he can do this to his brother then hurting hurting u in future will never be a big deal to him.
Pls move on with your life.
Young lady , I will advice you as an elderly man.
Please if you love your life , stay away from both brothers. Dont be the one to bring enmity between them.
Please leave these two brothers alone and move on with your life
See what s*x and desperation has caused? I don’t believe his brother will leave his priesthood for you! You should have been more patient or looked elsewhere entirely! Stop your relationship with that intending priest, leave both of them and stay alone a while and get your wits together. It is well with you!
Hello lady,
I will ask you to cut off your feelings, emotion and relationship with this guy. He’s a cheat and a betrayal ! You will be a loser at the end of the day.
Walk away !
Get away from your boyfriend and his brother, Godwin and move on with your life. You may eventually be disgraced if you don’t.
Don’t look back! God will make a way for you if you seek and ask Him for His help.
Good luck !
Leave both brothers and move on with your life.
Godwin is bad luck!
I mean, what does he think he’s doing to you? He’s just playing with your emotions without remorse and being overtaken by LUST.
Dearie if you’re not willing to continue the relationship with your boyfriend please make up your mind on time and run away from the younger brother. If you’re willing to still give your relationship a chance then you have to confess to your boyfriend before his brother emotionally blackmails you.
Think with your head not with your emotions!
Emotions will wear off but your head will give you wisdom to live a good life.
Do hope you make the right decision.
Hmmmm,this gal mady oo, sleeping with two brothers? Don’t u have conscience? How can u even think of something like that? I have found myself in a situation like this,my boyfriend back then was an asshole, n his cousin was like I like u a lot,u are a good person blah blah blah n blah. Me was just looking n wondering what that would be,he didn’t tell me my boyfriend had another relationship n was planning to marry someone else, but he was coming behind his brother n be professing love to me,but i said to myself that i can’t be a laffing stock becos at the end of the day,they will remain brothers n u what becomes of u? Make I beg u,get sense n Waka commot for that family with immediate effect,n let me also advise u,stop being desperate,becos it’s desperation that is causing u this plenty of confusion,leave those people,they don’t mean well for u,they are not good enough for u,so leave them alone n wait for God to send ur own man. Good luck
Young lady,
You put yourself in a tight corner. Thank mr Seminarian for his friendhsip and break it off now.
You do not have to start a family war because of this. If you let this guy denounce his calling because of his relationship with you,not only will the family hate you,he will also blame you for it in future.
Right,so your boyfriend does not care…move on from him and his brother. There are other men who will love and care for you the way you deserve to be loved and cared for.
If he wants to stop being a priest,let him do it for himself…not because of you.
Please stop seeing him…stop being passed around from one brother to another…you deserve some self respect and you make sure you get your integrity back by staying away from both of them.
Focus on a brighter future.
All the best.