Hello ma,
I need advise please. I am in love the way I have never been in love in my entire life. This is supposed to be the happiest time in my life but my friend does not want me to be happy. I really do not know what to do. Please post this anonymously.
My current boyfriend,now fiance used to date my friend. That was three years ago. They dated for like 7 months but the relationship was very rocky. My friend is a hot head,always abusing him at the time for any little misunderstanding.
My friend (Uri…not real name) has always been a hot head from school. I do not know why,she just gets angry and shouts anytime she is upset. She would throw big tantrums and even throw things around.
The boyfriend eventually got fed up and broke up with her. Indeed,Uri begged him but he had enough. I even helped her to beg but he said he is done as he was not getting anything but abuse in the relationship.
Two years later,I was on a flight to Abuja when I met him at the airport and we exchanged details. By this time,Uri is already had 3 other failed relationships. So, I felt the coast was clear when he started to show interest in me.
To be honest,my relationship with Uri also dwindled over time cos she is just that fire crack head that no one can really stand for so long. I love her but her dram gets to me and I wonder what I am doing with such a friend. I have counselled her …told her that she is driving people away from her. Yet,she wouldnt listen.
So I have been dating John (Uri’s ex) for one year now. He is such a nice guy. Made me happy,made me laugh and he says I am the best thing that happened to him. Note,we never had an eye for each other when he was with Uri. Now,that we are together,I did not feel the need to tell Uri cos its not like we are even best of friends now.
Somehow,Uri found out about us. And she went about telling people that I am a bitch and I stole her boyfriend that I was the reason they broke up in the first place. Knowing who she is,John and I ignored her.
We are now engaged and very happy about this. However, a school friend of ours called me recently to tell me what Uri had said about me.That she has gone to her village to do juju for me. That if I marry John,I would die before one year of the marriage. This girl warned me to be careful.
Though Uri did not say this to me directly, I know this is the type of thing she would say. I know she used to swear and curse people out but she never really carried out her threats. I just want to ignore her but somewhere in the back of my mind,I wonder if her threat is real?
I love John with all my heart but what if Uri makes do of her threat? Will I end up dead before one year of marriage? What should I do? Should I confront Uri?
Please advise me….
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Well, clear conscious fears no accusation.
As long as your hands are clean , no curse will catch with you especially if you are in Christ , no harm for who God has blessed no man can curse.
Please you need to find a way to see Uri,talk to her like a sister, explain things to her.Make her understand that John never had an eye for u when they were together, then if she doesn’t understand, abeg bone her and her nonsense juju,forget about her and marry your bobo,na only she sabi do juju,she is not serious.
Well, from your story, you didn’t snatch her man from her. The coast was clear before you both became friends. Get closer to God now. Hand everything over to Him. Believe He is equal to the task. Then seek prayers from your pastor or any spiritual leader you have. Tell your fiance, so that both of you can agree to decree in prayers and destroy whatever evil your friend has planned. Believe God will give you victory and He surely will.
Please, make sure you practice s*xual purity, until you get married. That is the only way God can get involved in it
Don’t confront Uri, ignore her, i repeat ignore her, if you don’t, you will prove to her that she’s getting to you, she wants you to be fearful, restless and guilty. Just carry on with your relationship with John without that fear or guilt she’s trying to make you feel. Babe, you did nothing wrong for dating her ex, she’s just jealous and feels rejected, enjoy the relationship and also be prayerful, commit your life and John’s to God’s able hands, God is your Lifegiver and your Lifesaver, so FEAR NOT
Hello,
You should confront the person who told you about your friend’s alleged threat. Is she willing to say that in front of Uri?
If she is,then do it…let her say it and let Uri deny or affirm it.
After which,you can get a police statement if it is indeed true and let her know if anything happens to you,she will be held responsible.
Then go ahead and pray and get married.
If she tries to go spiritual…you go spiritual to God and nullify her efforts.
Do not be afraid…you did her no wrong…that is ,if you are sure you did not in any way try to break them up before when they were still together.
All the best.
Avoid your friend as much as you can because she may do something in anger. Keep praying for no weapon formed against you shall prosper.
Please pray to God before you go nd confront her
I would say you should becareful with your friend and put her in prayer she need help. And Fear not
Don’t mind URI, she’s making an empty threat. Let her do whatever she wants. Since you didn’t date John while they’re together. You’re as free as an Eagle. Soar higher.
My dear go and look for ur friend and talk to her …and also explain hw u met her ex and also tell her u never had eyes on her ex while dey were still dating
If Uri actually said that, then her plan is working already, for you to have posted it here. She wants you to be living in fear during the relationship in such a way that, your mind won’t be free and your emotions will reduce due to the fear.
You can meet her if you want to hear it from her directly but be prepared that meeting her will only escalate the matter, giving her more audacity to curse or threaten you. If you can’t handle more of that, then stay away from her.
Just ignore her if you have done nothing wrong. No evil shall befall you. You should take her threat as a blessing. You and your fiance should become more closer to God, be free from sin and be prayerful about your union to overcome any evil or obstacles that may try to separate you, whether it is from Uri or any other person.
It is well with you !!!!
Hello,
Ignore Uri and continue with your guy, nothing will happen to you.
All you need is prayer.
It will end in praise.
Regards.
Spirit for spirit! Don’t dull! Don’t slack! Tell your fiance and pray always! Psalm 121-7 says God will preserve you from all evil!
If you are in Christ, if she likes she should go to the stars nothing will happen to you. Anyways I suggest you do what Mrs Jzhane has said. God help you.
You guys need to arrest her or sue her for slander or give restraining order. She can cause you harm. Be careful
You have no business with Uri but your GOD,go on your knees and pray,you dont fight spiritual with physical,let your boyfriend join you in warfare,fight her spirituallly.
She want to sow seeds of discord in your relationship, dont let her.
If you really had nothing to do with their breakup,GOD is there for you!
No juju pass GOD!