Hi dear,
Please Post for me and hide my ID
I am 23 years old, married, my man has 2 wives. I am the second wife, his wife knew me as his girlfriend before, last year in may I realized was pregnant, I told him he asked me to come, I told him to give me time after 3 months he made me his wife.
I didn’t tell my parents and so he didn’t tell his wife, he asked me not to tell people about it so that we do everything slowly by slowly without hurting anyone’s feelings but still his wife heard it.
Some where she asked him, he refused when I was 7 months he organized his people to go and see my parents in secret and so they did. His wife doesn’t know. With his wife they have 6 children all girls I gave birth to a son.
The point is for 1 year he only visits me during the day even if he wants s*x. Tts 4 days that he spent a night with me,he tells me to calm down that he wants to handle things slowly,he is giving me everything but hurting my feelings.
He keeps telling me that he loves me so much,am tired he fears his wife,he lies to her when we are together.
What should I do?
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Has he paid your bride price? If not, you’re just his side chick and you should come out of it, pick your life together and move on… I’m sure you’ll find love again…
He used you,periodt! Better leave that situation and care for your child while waiting for your own man. 23? Too early to be desperate.
Exactly
Let me say this : he is still showing concern because you have his only son.
And the thing is you are not his wife Except you’re legally married to him.
Think about this: how long will you be someone husbands sidechick when you can have your own man all to yourself.
Staying in this kind of relationship has it implications that will not just affect you alone. My advice is that move on and be strong God’s plan is better than this. Don’t be second class while you can be First.
God bless .
Lady Congratulations on your baby.
It’s really not fair what you’re doing to another person’s home, I mean you knew he was married with children and you still shook head put now you want the Man all to yourself. Haba! My dear you’re breaking another woman’s home and I bet you another side chick will do same to the ‘home’ you’re building with that Man.
Please leave that relationship let the Man focus on his home, his wife and children need him.
There’s no joy in you breaking another woman’s home just to build yours, that’s a faulty foundation. You think you’re hot? Well, when Mr Man is through with you he’ll find someone hotter than you.
At 23 years of age….I’m very sure what really attracted you to him was material things, and as God would have it you got pregnant by mistake.
He told you not to inform your family about it and he couldn’t tell his wife as well.
Pls leave that man alone to concentrate on his family while you also look for your own husband.
Thanks.
You have to pick up yourself and move out of the relationship because if you wait very soon he will not have your time again because of his wife since you are not legally married to him you can still find another person that will have full time for you and will give you rest of mind
God bless you
This issue is a complicated one, Firstly you should know if he wants you to be his second wife, because having a son for him isn’t enough. Secondly, you have to take your stand because for him to be scared of his wife means he did nothing when he went to see your parents, that’s why he still likes to you. Thirdly, you have to be aware that this situation is still in your control, even though you made a big mistake getting pregnant for a married man out of love. To remedy the situation, let him legally marry you or you simply walk out of that relationship, build back your life and move on.
The only advice I have for you out of pity is this, let the man set up a good business for you .secondly involve your family on this issue, two heads is better than one.Then plan how to move on with your life. Don’t break someones home. Having a son for him, doesn’t make you his wife. Nowadays female childs take good care of there parents than male children. But if you insist on holding on to this man,my sister depression will be your second name.
Your are his baby factory while his wife is his love. My dear daughter I have seen cases like this and the women ended upregretting it . Be wise now disengage yorself with that relationship, agree with him on how to take care of Your baby. Again biblically what your are committing with him is adultery. You’re too young to be used and dump, look for your own husband.
Hello. U didn’t mention whether you married legally or not. Everything about you two seems to be in secrecy. I doubt all your family members knows about this issue.
Anything done in secrecy doesn’t end well. You will never be able to express yourself freely. You call yourself the second wife, yet, you are still a stranger to his wife (even if she was aware of u). Definitely this man didn’t date you to have u as a second wife. It was the pregnancy that forced his hand. Maybe he was only dating you because of the s*x and used the promise of marriage to deceive you.
If he was proud of you and ready to have u as a real second wife, he would have stopped hiding you away.
It’s never too late for you. If he is not ready to publicly display you as the second wife, then end the relationship with him and let him keep taking care of your child’s expenses only. You are still young. Don’t be scared you won’t find another guy who would settle down with you with another man’s child. You still have a long way to go.
It is well !!!
Hello,
You are too young to be in this type of mess. At 23, you deserve to dream big and have better things in life. You do not have to be a second wife. Fine,you have a baby for him…that does not mean you should be his wife.
The truth is: if he is so scared of his wife,he will NEVER marry you…and he will never leave his wife for you..you will only be a baby mama.
I know being a baby mama is fine for some people but I dare you to dream bigger…you can be someone’s first and only wife. Leave that man and his family. Do not be the source of another woman’s hurt.
I pray you find the courage to do the right thing. God bless.
Exactly. At such age
You are just a side chick. You think he would leave his wife for you… He loves her not that he is afraid of her… You made the mistake of dating and getting pregnant for a married man. You better try to leave now that you are young and plan your life well