True Life Story: How My Neighbor’s Husband Lied That I Used Jazz On Him
Good evening Madam Jzhane,
Please I need your advise. I made a mistake last year during the ASSU strike of last year and no one wants to believe my side of the story that is why I want to share my side here. I was at home most of the time. I noticed we have a new neighbors who met me once on our street, he introduced himself to me and asked me to give him my no. I gave him honestly, not thinking anything. But after that, this man started chatting me, telling me how struck he was by my beauty and intelligence.
Initially, when I gave him my no, I did not expect him as a married man to be running after me but he kept chasing me with calls, chats, love messages, he sent me recharge even though I never asked him. I told him that I cannot date him cos he is married. He then went on to tell me how his wife has been denying him S** since they had their last child five years ago. That the wife is dry and he is S** starved.
To make things worse, this man’s wife goes to work while he works at home. So, most time, the compound is empty and he will be begging me to come over to his house. He lured me finally with watching a series move which made me come over to their apartment. From there, he started persuading me to suck him and had S** eventually with him. I swear, every time we had S**, I felt so dirty and condemned but you know with S**, once you start, the temptation takes over you.
Eventually, I went back to school and this man continued texting me, we had phone S** alot of times…before I knew it, I became like a S** addict to him. He started controlling me, telling me what to do to myself and send him the video. He was also spending alot of money on me. He came over to my school and he lodged in a hotel for 3 days where we were having marathon S**. I thought I was in love…this man even started wishing the man’s wife will die so I can be with him.
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This man practically made me his S** slave….anything he wanted, I did…he made me get a tatoo of his name on my breast….I could not concentrate at school. My school work was suffering. He placed me on permanent contraceptive so I would not get pregnant. This affair went on until last December. I was on holiday and this man would f*ck me at any slightest opportunity. And then one day, we were f*cking and his wife burst in and caught us red handed. The shame that came upon me, I ran away to our apartment and prayed to God to take my life.
The next thing that followed was, this woman called the whole compound and told them that I used jazz on her husband. That she noticed her husband has been behaving strangely for some time and she has been praying and when she caught us, the husband’s eyes became clear….that he said he did not know what he will be doing with someone like me, that I am not even pretty. My parents were so angry and disappointed but they refused to accept that I jazzed the man. My dad has not been himself since that day…infact, my parents have not been the same.
Me, too…I have not been the same. The man lied….that the whole affair was my fault and his wife and the entire compound is blaming me. My parents curse the day they gave birth to me. I can’t seem to concentrate at school. My life seems to be over and I do not know what to do. Sometimes, I have the urge to murder this man for lying against me….he was the one who pursued me and made me loose my mind over S** with him….he pursued me and made me a S** addict. Since we broke up, I can’t do without S**….I now look for random guys just to f*ck me….is this ordinary? I need help…please.I was never like this…my parents never raised me this way….I can’t control my life anymore…see how this S** addict has turned me into an addict.
I have cried and cried and asked God to forgive me but it seems God is silent and forsaken me. The whole world has forsaken me….yes, I was wrong but so is the man…why is he easily forgiven and me, the woman blamed? Its not fair…I think I was the one who was jazzed….I wish I could prove to the woman that her husband was the one who started it. Should I forward her all the texts where he was professing his undying love for me, where he was sending me dirty things he would do for me, how he wishes he met me before his dry wife….or is it the videos I did with her husband? They are a full porn diary….Will she believe me and forgive me then? Or will she just assume that it was all my jazz?
Somewhere, in my mind, I think the woman is in denial. she knows her husband is a slut but she prefers to blame me cos I am the easy target….I am so depressed….I cant even go home after my exams….I will be staying back at school cos I cant face my family or seeing the man….I feel I have not been given justice on this matter and until this woman and my parents forgive me, I do not see anyway I can move forward. Please advise me. I do not need insult….I have been living in hell since….I can’t take it anymore….I am crying out for help cos I can’t take it anymore.
What should I do please?
Anonymous
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I wanted to blame you seriously,I wanted to say alot to you but let me reserve my comment.
You have to be strong to face the man and your parents,go home after exams,don’t be depressed,the did has been done.
It’s a man’s world they say,what were you expecting? For the woman’s husband to support you or what,you better have a tough skin and face your fears.
I hope you have learnt your lesson…
You’re not a S.e.x addict,try as much as possible to desist from having S.e.x with random guys,don’t do the one that will be worse than this one,use your head and go close to God,face your studies squarely and be responsible.
Don’t give your parents high blood pressure oo. Mind yourself,I don’t know why you should even agree to give a married man your number in the same compound you live,nawaoooo. You still had the gut to make out in his apartment,mind yourself henceforth.
Na WA ooo, inside compound again u no reason the shame that will accompany it if u were caught
Go and face your fear and your shame, the man don use u shine .
Hello girl, from your text I think you lack self confidence, you used expressions as “he made me… he used me as…” He shouldn’t make you do things, you should choose to do them. Build confidence in yourself, a man shouldn’t make you do things.
Work extra hard on your studies, it will give your parents something good to talk about.
You really need to build your self.
You just kept blaming the man, did he force you? no, you made the choice yourself.
Find a way to go beg the wife and cut off ties with the man.
You women should learn to be accountable for your actions.
Hello,
If you go to a spirit filled church, please go to your Pastors wife, she can organise a program for you ( ie both of you fast & pray together with scriptures) and support you through the journey.
Repent before God, fast ,pray, break the hold of the enemy over your desires, take in lots of the word of God, go for mid week and Sunday services etc, stay in fellowship, listen to a lot of fire brand messages on YouTube that way the desire for s.x outside marriage will start fading off, don’t be in situations that will make you compromise
‘Now I say, walk by the Spirit, and you should not gratify the desires of the flesh’. Gal 5:16
Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.
Don’t live in condemnation.
Peace.
Jesus says ‘Neither do I condemn you, GO and Sin NO MORE’, the enemy is trying to abort the great future you have but fight it off & resist the temptation going forward, make the best of what you have left of your academics.
You have apologised to His wife, if you can still apologise again to her and your family then lift up your head, you cannot change the past but you can do something about the future.
Doing everything above will gradually start changing your mind set and your cravings, you’ll find after a while that s.xual activity while you are not married will be repulsive to you and you’ll look forward to when next you can take in the word but watch it, it’s very easy to slip back so stay accountable to your Pastors wife if you have one or can find one.
Rahab did a lot of ‘dirty’ things in the Bible but God still used her when she followed the way of God’s people. This is not your end, don’t take your life. It may be dark now but it will end in praise if you allow it. If you fall ( pls don’t plan to) remember, the righteous may fall 7 times but He will rise again.
RISE, you are God’s princess ok.