Hello,
I need your advise. I met this girl on instagram like 10 months ago. I first became her follower,making comments and just trying to get her attention but nothing. I eventually had to slide into her DM. Yet,she still ignored me.
I follow her and I love how she posts,she post very inspirational and brilliant things. It does not post pictures of any man so I assume she is single. She only post her personal pictures and she is very pretty. Like a model.
Actually,I found out that she is Pharmacy undergraduate. And she lives on the mainland.. I like her and wish she could be mine. I asked her to give me a chance several times until she blocked me.
Anyways,I noticed she unblocked me like a few weeks ago. And she liked one of my comments on her posts. That made me give her another shot and since then,she has been chatting with me. Finally, I feel happy.
Now,we have moved to whatsapp chat and all. I must admit,she is a great girl. I only wish there was no lock down cos I would like to ask her out.Well, few days ago, I was chatting with her when I noticed she was not really responding…I asked her if there was a problem and she said not really.
I probed further and she said she was broke and feeling a little sad. I told her I would send her some money. To be honest,she told me not to bother but I insisted. I sent her N20k. This made her very happy…she called back to thank me.
That kind of helped our relationship. I think she was impressed that a stranger would send her money. We talk for hour and hours on the phone,video calls and all for the last few days.
However,three days ago..she was not online the entire day. I called her but her no was switched off. I was worried. I left her several messages. No response until the next day. All she replied was: we need to talk. I was actually worried cos when a woman says we need to talk..that is serious matter.
Eventually we spoke yesterday morning. And she opened up and said that she wanted to be honest with me. That she had a boyfriend,actually a fiance but they broke up two months ago. The guy is abroad. They broke up cos she found out he was cheating the guy was also very financially involved in her education.
She explained that was why she was refusing my advances. Now,the guy is begging her to give him another chance but she discovered she has feelings for me. We have never met. Only online. She is confused and wondering if she should accept her ex apology or give me a chance.
I told her the choice was hers to make. I mean,I would wish her to choose me but I will not compete with another guy for a woman’s attention. I was stunned when she said she would choose me. That her heart says its me. She may not have met me but I make her laugh and happy.
That all she was doing with that guy was because of his financial help. To be honest,this made me really glad. But its also made me really think if this girl is genuine. She has all the attributes of a good girl. I mean,she told me all about herself. She is a brilliant girl and will be graduating this year.
She has a bright future. She is also a very good christian. She encourages me on christian things. Sometimes,she will say she was praying when I tried to call.
My only worry is: I hope she is truly broken up with that guy…I don’ want her to toy with my heart. I like her so much. She choose me …me that she has not met…over a fiance…over someone helping her financially…
I am a little bit worried…is this real or is he using me as a mugu….maybe the babe is broke and using me to get money during this lock down period….at least, that is what one of my friend said…
What do you all think?
Anonymous Lively Stones Facebook Member
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Don’t give her money again, till you meet with her after the lockdown. If her reaction changes, then the answer to your question will be clear to you.
Hello,
You need time to determine what this would turn out to be .
Just be friends….no strings attached. After the lock down….continue with no strings attached.
Also,are you willing to help with her education?…if not,better tell her to stick with her ex.
I think she is still confused or she is actually playing you for a maga.
In any case….just be cool…be her friend and see what the relationship becomes in another 4-7 months before you commit to a romantic one.
In the meantime…nothing is guaranteed…no one breaks up under 2 months and is ready for a new relationship except you are a rebound.
Be careful!
You better not give her money again. Don’t you know scammers are everywhere. Try to arrange an offline date ASAP
I will advise you take it slow..meet with her..see her physically and dont do daddy nice too much