Hi,
I need advice from LS family please.
I am Mohammed. I am in my 40th Year. I am comfortable financially. A house of my own and two cars. I was married to the love of my life 9 years ago. We started well. We were happy for about two years. She was a nice woman. She cooks good and very respectful but all of a sudden, my wife became something else. And then comes the trouble.
It all started when we expected to have our own children 3 years after our marriage, but no way and my wife started pushing me for a native way-out. I actually didn’t succumbed initially but told her we should go medical. We visited the first hospital and I was tested and by d time the result came, I was having low sperm count. I never believed it. I ran another test and it was same and another came same. The fourth lab center made me believed I am actually having a problem. Because all d while, I never believed I had such.
Anyway, my wife was tested too and she was confirmed to have a minor infection.
I began the treatment process for a month and went back for a test. The result was worse. The doctor changed my drugs and the later result became worse than the former.
We had to change the doctor and the same thing kept repeating itself.
We decided to go spiritual. The revelation I got was that my wife has spiritual husband. We started running from one prayer house to another.
My situation grew worse and I became tired. And one day, My wife left my house and it was rumored that she is with another man. I went about begging but all efforts to bring her back was fruitless. Her mum and sisters tried all they could but she refused them all.
Months later, I went for a test and everything about me was okay. The result was Ok. I called my wife to tell her about this, she practically ignored my calls. After 2 years of loneliness and thinking, I decided to move on.
I met this lady and I fell in love with her. Though I narrated my story to her. We went into dating. We have been in relationship for about 7 months now.
And now, here comes my runaway wife.The truth is that, I don’t want her again. I am happy with the new love.But my father, brother and sisters, including my uncle wants me to take her (my wife) back.
My mother said I do not have a future with the new lady. (Courtesy of the vision she saw)
He has even vowed to disown me as his first son if I do not accept my wife back. My father is a well to do man with companies and estates.
Everybody around me wants me to accept her.
The question now is that:
1. Is my mother who is a Pastor too, telling the truth?
2. If I marry this new lady, will she flow with my people.
3. Is my new love worth loosing my place as first son to my father even though she makes me so happy than my runaway wife?
I am confused. I need help please.
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Brother, I understand how it feels. There is a saying that what the father sees sitting down, even though you climb a tree ,you wont see it. I think your parents are right
You became well when your wife left. I guess her spiritual husband let you when he discovered his property is no longer in your custody. You need to properly evaluate your situation and be sure you are not truly hunted by your (former) wife spiritual husband. This should be your biggest worry.
I don’t think u should accept her back considering that she left and u were better but u should pray more if u finally decided to accept her
While you May not reconcile with your ex wife,pls don’t marry someone your parents are against until you can convince them.
You married the first, you haven’t married the second woman. Take your wife back.
Remember the parable of the prodigal son in the Bible; when he realised his error, repented and returned home and was received joyfully by his father. Your wife had realized her err and repented and is back now.
There is a manipulation going on somewhere,that woman is witch to Start with ,how do u move out of ur matrimonial home without any reason? Something is definitely wrong somewhere, that woman is an agent of Satan that’s out to destroy that u,so u really need to stand up for ur happiness n ,ur happiness is all that matters to u right now, meanwhile ur family shouldn’t have much to say about u n ur happiness,becos in the first place u are one who wears the shoes n not ur family so u should talk to ur family n let the see reasons with u,as a mata of fact explain to them what u have been going through a the house before she eventually left the house to stay with another man, meanwhile her coming back is for a reason,she has not come to stay oo,she has come to make sure that you don’t fyn happiness at all. First of all she left the house without u chasing her away,n every body went to beg her, but she refused to come back until u found love again, that’s wen she decided to come back to house that everyone was begging her to return back to,my dear be very careful with that woman,she is definitely up to something,so be very watchful, according to ur story,wen she was in the house,all u did to get healed ,all proved abortive,as a mata of fact,ur problem got worst with her being around,so check it very well,she definitely doesn’t want u to be happy, that’s y she came back to make sure that u remain unhappy, apart from having a spiritual husband,she herself is not pure,so if u are a child of God,pray,pray n pray
This needs Gods intervention alone. Prayers is the only possible solution here.
Hello sir,
Your wife has committed adultery against you.
She left you in loneliness for two years.
All the efforts to reconcile from you and her family was fruitless.
You decided to move on with your life and found new love after years of separation, she now showed up.
You have No room in her life anymore, neither does she have any place in your life, at all !
But seriously you need God’s intervention in this matter!
Take everything to God in prayer and He will solve the problem and bail you out.
It’s typical of women to castigate another woman’s action, if it was the man who had left her for two years I’m sure you’d be preaching forgiveness to the woman.
All this questions you listed looks like what you should be in a better position to answer cos you know your mum better than we do, you should also know from the behaviour of your new love if she will flow with your family. But your wife no try at all, after 2 year of leaving me you’re now coming back. If its me i won’t accept her back, never.
Hmmm this one strong o but what’s the the reason why your own family is insisting that you accept her back because as for me until I get an answer then I will know exactly what to advice but for the mean time don’t be too quick to accept her back and remember that situations reveals the true identity of humans…
Mister from your story it’s rather unfortunate that your wife left without you chasing her away but now she’s back and your family wants a reconciliation.
In Africa cases of infidelity amongst women aren’t taken lightly, usually the Man’s family will never accept the wife back but in your case it’s different. I wonder why!
Let’s hear the woman’s side of the story first before advising, but for your Dad to be adamant about this I think you should consider going to counselling with your wife since you’re still legally married to her.
Hello,
Let me address your questions:
1.God is not the Author of confusion. If he showed your mother a vision. Pray about it. Fast about it. If its from God,you will find peace with that vision. God will speak to you if you are honest and open minded.
2. Your family may not accept this new lady. At least for the first years in marriage. They already showed their disapproval. So,if their approval means anything to you,you might want to make sure you get it before marrying her or leave with your decision if you marry her without their consent
3. You barely know this woman,why loose everything because you think you love her? you were married for longer years than you know this new love. I think you need to be careful even if you want to move on…time is required to determine if this woman will continue to make you happy or be a better partner than your wife.
In summary:
You are still married to your runaway wife. Why not try and make things work with her. Forgive her…you also erred. Maybe hear her side of why she stayed away..maybe that was her won way of dealing with the pressure of childlessness.
Children are a gift from God. You cannot allow anyone put you under pressure about children. If God blesses you with biological children,thank Him. If there is a delay or you dont have biological children,also thank Him….God knows why and He knows what is best for you
You can also have children via other options like : IVF,Surrogacy,adoption….etc
Just choose to love your wife and be happy as you were when you first got married.
The grass may not always be greener on the other side…maybe your wife realized that and wants to make your marriage work.You too should give it another trial.
God bless you.
Put everything in prayers, since ur mum saw a vision and warned u over it, u hv to prayer against such vision. She is still legally married to u, forgive her n hear her own part of d story buh u hv to be careful