Is My Boyfriend Abandoning Me For A Prostitute?-Please Advise
Good afternoon Ma,
Please I need advice on my relationship. My name is Kene (not real name) and am in relationship with Uzi (Not real name),I have been dating him for almost 4 years now and this year we decided to get married.
As we are still on the process, I went to visit him because we don’t live in the same state, I noticed he is going out with another Lady who is from my Village,I confronted him and told me they met on michat and they made love together.
He told me that She is a s*x worker. I was angry and he became angry too and walked away from me,we didn’t talk to me but I killed my pride went to him knelt down and apologized to him after some days.
I came back to my base not know I was pregnant for him,I told him and he was excited, the attention he has not be given to me for a while came back and I was happy again.
It was time for his training, I was happy because he was at my state. He came and we stayed together for some days and it was fun until when he asked me to go buy clothes for that same lady’s nephew. (the called s*x worker’s nephew).
I was shocked and disappointed, he decided to pack his luggage out of my house and I was now dragging the luggage with him before he injured himself and I was not about it.
I have been pleading with him for two days now but no positive response, he even said I should do whatever pleases me with the pregnancy. Am six weeks pregnant. What should I do?
I wish I was not pregnant for him.Am loosing my strength by the day. I can take of my baby but don’t want to raise my child without his father.. The marriage is Not my priority but my child. I had rejected many proposal because of him and he is aware of it.
Please advise me
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Why did you get pregnant in the first place?You intentionally wanted to get pregnant to see if he will stay with you right?Why rush when you have both decided to get married this year? Anyway you have to give birth to that innocent child you are carrying ooooo,don’t know why most ladies can’t read the handwriting on the wall,now you are wishing not to have been pregnant. All through 3years plus you didn’t get pregnant, now that you are almost getting married,you couldn’t just wait.
Many children are happy without father figures.
I believe that child will be well off with you alone. He can get another father if God wills.
Why holding on to what’s not yours?
Your boyfriend openly told you that he’s cheating on you and you’re not bothered?
It seems his mind is off the relationship,focus on yourself. If he comes back to you then good,if not let him be.
What type of advice do you need please? Somebody you’re about getting married to is sleeping with a call girl and you are not seriously opposing it. You are begging him? Begging him for disrespecting you ? Is he going to marry both of you together? Don’t you have self value. Are you so desperate to marry. If you marry him with his double dating habit, what happens after wedding?
Please if you love yourself or your future, keep away from him, have your baby and start your life afresh. You seem to lack vision of what you want to make out of your life. Surrender your life to Christ and let God help you add value to your life.
Most a time u Ladies make it look as if with out men u can’t live ur lives. For goodness sake, that man is not urs. You lost it when u first went to beg him after cheating on u. If u continue this way to beg him after hurting u cos of that Lady he will continue to do it. Maybe there is something you are not telling us. As for the unborn baby, keep him/her and focus on building your live and career. That baby need all ur attention and love now.
Nawa ooo women sef, no self respect anymore cos of marriage. Marriage is not a do or die affair move on with your life dear. You deserve someone much better. Keep that child, have a vision for your life aside marriage. A better and a well deserving man will locate you when you have more love and value for yourself. All the best.
Hello,
This is not a healthy relationship. And frankly speaking, not one that anyone should struggle to keep.
He cheats with a call girl….and asks you to help buy stuff for the call girl’s nephew?….are you sure that call girl is not his baby mama? What of the so called nephew is his son?
If all you said about him is true….then for your own good….focus on finding your self worth ….forget such an unhealthy relationship and focus on the baby.
As for the pregnancy…do not abort it…that child deserves a chance to live and find purpose on earth…..give the child that chance
You can give up the child for adoption after birth if you cannot care for the child but do not abort
Who knows…this child might change your fortune for good….open new prosperous doors for you.
Leave your man alone….if he finds himself…and realizes his errors…fine…but do not rush back into his hands…do not beg anymore….it takes two to tangle…do not beg anyone to be in your life especially if they do not treat you right.
Be strong…do not despair…there is light at the end of the tunnel….pray to God…and trust Him to guide you from now on.
God bless