My Cousin Is About To Walk Into A Terrible Marriage – Should I Warn Her?
Hello Ma’am,
I have a confession to make. I need your advise. Please do not use my name when posting this. (I beg not to be judged…I did not mean to harm anyone) Three months ago. I travelled to the village for a wedding. On getting there, my house was filled with guests from all over cos I come from a very big family.
My distant cousin whom I have not seen in like seven years met me and invited me to come to her hotel and see her. She gave me the name pf the hotel and I went to see her but on getting there,she was not around. She left a message for me to wait for her in the lobby.
While waiting there, I caught the eye of a handsome man looking at me. I smiled back and he moved over to sit with me. We got gisting and he said he was here on a visit and was looking for some companion.
Usually, I do not do casual s*x but he seemed very nice and smelt good. I have been celibate for almost one year. Being horny is not funny. I agreed…followed him and went to his hotel room for a quickie with him. We exchanged phone numbers. By that time, my cousin was calling me .
I went down to meet her at the lobby and she and I exchanged happy hugs. She grabbed me back to her hotel room. By the time we were at the door of her room…I wanted to run away. Because it was the same room I just had a quickie with this handsome stranger.
It turns out that the man I just slept with a few minutes ago is my cousin’s fiancé. Ma…I almost peed in my pants. He too was sweating like a goat. It was such an uncomfortable meeting. I had to fake menstrual pain to run away from there like 30 mins later.
Men are such wicked souls. You need to see the way this guy was all over my cousin when she introduced him to me. And my poor cousin was gushing all over him…not knowing her just f*cked another woman literally like 40 mins ago.
I could not sleep cos I had to go back to my already full house and barely slept on the couch. At the wedding, the nest day…I avoided my cousin and her fiancé whom she was happily introducing to everyone. Saying their wedding is December 26th this year.
I felt so sorry for my cousin and wished I could warn her about her husband to be but cos I did not want to implicate myself…I decided to keep quiet. But this he-goat of a man has not stopped trying to call me since then. Telling me he cant stop thinking about me.
He first apologized for sleeping with me cos he said he did not know I was related to his fiancé….but he said it was destiny that brought us together…that he never met anyone like me before…that his dream is to be with someone as spontaneous as me…bla bla bla.
I have been telling him to f*ck off but right now…I am so disgusted that its been 3 months since we hooked up and its almost time for their wedding…yet this man keeps hollering at me…should I forward his messages to me to my cousin? I can blur my name and number from the chats to cover my ass …but will that make any change?
Will that help my cousin to open her eyes and not walk into this sham of a marriage? What if it backfires? Will I be implicated? If indeed I send it to her….will she find out my involvement? If you were in my shoes…what would you do?
Please advise me….
Anonymous
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My dear sister, let me correct what you said, you said men are such wicked souls, you too is wicked, you had S.e.x with a man who is not your husband, what do you call that pls, that is FORNICATION, which is a GREAT EVIL before GOD..that’s by the way. I STRONGLY ADVISE you tell you cousin this night, I mean this night, that man will cheat on her over and over again if they ever get married, he apologised for not knowing you is his fiancee’s cousin, I’m sure you don’t need anyone to tell you he has been cheating on her and will continue cheating on her if they ever get married, you know S.e.x is sweet so cheaters will always pretend to change just to deceive their partners or spouses, he has been calling you for three months that he likes you for being S.e.xually spontaneous and yet you don’t know you could have told you cousin, you know exactly what to do except you want to continue S.e.xing him, so pls tell your cousin, and explain to her how it happened and show her all the message that greedy man has been sending to you, trust me marriage is not an achievement or the end goal, we only make marriage look like more than it is. Pls sister, tell your cousin this night, you can call her to explain to her on phone and ask her to meet and you guys will talk more, she will appreciate you for being honest with her, but i ask you why did you wait for almost four months sister. Be loyal and truthful to your cousin. All the best sister, love you. I am Akin
Tell your cousin the truth as it happened. That is the only solution. If she decides to go ahead with the marriage that is her cup. But come out clean, send her a mesaage.
You should tell your cousin the truth,but the fact that you also had S.e.x with him shows how cheap you played,Men are not evil either,that particular man decided to behave that way.
Fornication is a sin before God. Only what you need to do is to talk to your so called he goat as you are his she goat. Repent together with him and continue living a faithful life
Correct yourself pls, men are not wicked souls. You are cheap and wicked too. You had quickie with a total stranger who happens to be another’s own. Not all mature and well responsible men u see and admire their physical looks.
Judgmental ppl everywhere……… It is not for us to judge each other of our sins against God,it is for us to correct with love, and encourage each other to be better @Akin and everyother person calling her names you are not any better, he thats without sin let him cast the first stone, as no sin is more sin than the other… We can only judge by the pain we cause one another if atall… Ppl bring their stories here for advice and not to be called names…and for a fact… They guy is scum for still trying to sleep with her again!
Dear pls tell your cousin the truth, you didn’t know they were together, and for him to still be making advances at you shows he’s unrepentant which even makes it worse, pls marriage is a long term committed, let your cousin know and let the decision to stay or leave be hers to make…
Hello,
You need to write your sister a letter…apologize to her and tell her what happened….let her know you are so sorry but you did not know he was her fiancé.
Next time…wait until marriage before you have random s*x…e get why
That you feel you should let her know ….whatever she does after…its not your business..
She may hate you after…but its better she finds out now than she does after marriage…cos then…she will be worse off
Block this guy and move very far away…
Pray for your cousin….confide in a senior spiritual coach that can also help your cousin with sound advise…but do not get involved again.
Let her deal with her issues and heal from it on her own terms.
Its well