Hi,
My name is JK. Use my initials. I want to remain anonymous but my wife is a fan so I want her to see y post. I have been married for 4 years to an amazing woman. I love her so much and will never do anything to hurt her.
However,before we got married,I had a fling with a colleague for a brief period. I was single then. It ended even before I met my wife. I thought I was free from my colleague but she was made head of our unit and that meant I had to report to her.
Even though I am married,this colleague tries to flirt with me anytime we are alone so I try to avoid her cos I don’t want to mess up things in my marriage. Since last year,my wife and I have been hoping to start developing a property so we can move into our own place before the end of this year for our 5th wedding anniversary.
I hoped to get a loan from my company but my boss who is my ex refused to sign my loan application. We were going to loose the property we were going to buy.That day,my wife had called me frantically to make sure we don’t loose the offer. She asked me to go and beg my boss….that she will also beg on my behalf if need be.
What my wife didn’t know is that I have history with my boss. I told her I would try,so I went to beg my boss to please help me sign my application.
She promised to sign it. She asked me to bring it to her where she was having a meeting with a client. I went to see her but she was still in the meeting with the client and she sent me an sms to wait. I waited,the meeting finished after 2 hours. When she came in,she promised to sign it if I just indulged her just once.
I was desperate. Once seemed not to bad. I told her I would never cheat on my wife. But I needed the money. I was going to walk away when she said to me,she was getting married and just wanted one last time with me before she gets married.
Now,thinking about what she said,I know her reason made no sense but I went ahead and insisted on using protection,so she would not hold me down later with a pregnancy or something. It was only once but I did it and I regret it everyday since that happened.
I got the loan but that did not stop my boss. She kept coming after me more and more. I practically fought her off one time she cornered me in her office once. That angered her and she cooked up a story of a story of insubordination and she sent me on a one month suspension.
Could you believe this woman is cooking up more lies and telling people that its because she resisted my advances,that is why I am being insubordinate to her. She lied that I even came to seduce her to sign my loan application. These lies are hurting me so bad,I don’t know how to defend myself.
A disciplinary panel has been set to look into the matter. It seems this woman wants to really fire me. I did not tell my wife the entire story but she has been very worried that I was sent on suspension for no cause. My wife wants to take legal action so I had to tell her the entire truth.
My wife was really upset when she found out that about my past with my boss. She blamed me for not telling her before now and she says its hard to believe me that I still do not have feelings for her. My wife has been so upset for my not telling her the truth and also sleeping with my boss to get a loan for our house.
I know I should have told her from the beginning but I never knew it would come to this. i am so sorry. I have apologized countless times to my wife but she has refused to forgive me. She moved out of our bedroom to the children’s bedroom. My home has not been the same ever since.
I do not want to loose my wife. Its been two weeks …my life is upside down. I might loose my job.My wife does not even want me to work with this lady anymore.I am not sure I will be able to get a transfer after this panel,my wife says I should resign.
Last night,I pleaded with her all through. I know I hurt her badly. I hate to see her like this. She says I should give her space to process everything … that she never wanted to marry a banker but she thought I was different. Those words hit me hard.
I do not mind resigning but with this pandemic,where will I get a new job where banks (I work in a bank) are even laying off staff. I don’t want to loose my wife. Please help me beg her and advise me on what to do to make her forgive me. I am very sorry ma. I want my wife to know how I feel,that I am very sorry and I promise to never cause her any pain.
Please help me…
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For me,I think your wife isn’t considerate enough… Yes, you have wronged her by keeping this secret from her and it hurts her…I think you guys should just sit and talk like the couple you are and thrash this out amicably…You need to through this phase together… Since you said she’s a member too, let me put this straight to her… “Ma’am your husband loves you a lot, kindly forgive him…To err is human and to forgive is divine”…
Pray earnestly for God’s intervention on your family and guidance as to how to face the panel. I believe with your wife’s forgiveness and her support, you’ll scale through and with lots of agreement prayers too!
It’s amazing you didn’t envisage this happening. Pray about it and look for a business to do. Leave that bank.
Ma, please forgive your husband. He did a very stupid thing no doubt but please find it in your heart to forgive him please.
Mr Man you should have been more open to your wife, your lack of communicating with her made her lose trust in you that’s why she’s out of the bedroom. She would have been in a better position to find this lady with you, who knows.
I pray that your marriage survives this after which there should be more communication.
God help you.
I pray that woman is caught red handed. You can set her up and expose her too maybe by recording your conversations or texts so that you show the panel.
I think this is a case of choosing between Wife and company.
Pleased with her on your knees, because you did not do It for fun and she needs to shame ur Boss by she Standing with you.
Hah she needs to shame that shameless whore that she can’t keep her pants under control. Ma if you are reading this comment this is not the time to move out of your bedroom think about what if the way you are treating him make him to do something he doesn’t want to do please ma think about it. He didn’t do it for himself nd try to put yourself in his shoes and walk just a mile with it try and understand him and forgive him please
Dear Mrs.J.K, I plead on behalf of your darling husband to forgive him, please!
To err is human… he has utterly made a mistake, but pardon him and pray with him to find favor in the sight of the Panel of enquiry in the Company.
Bros, pray for mercy and favor before the Panel to catapult you away from Office with this evil lady to another branch.
I guess that will be your only “Get-Away” to your FREEDOM !!
Goodluck
Hi,
You will not loose your wife: it depends though on what you do now.
While I feel,there is more to your story,for example: why in the world did you think sleeping with your boss is ok just because you needed a loan?
Is the house more important than betraying your wife?
Your wife is hurt. Plead with her and go for professional theraphy.
She needs to get off the hurt and anger off her chest before she can heal and learn to trust you again.
And sadly,the only way forward is to transfer or quit the job. Your wife will never feel like trusting you again if you still work with that woman.
Never give up on fighting for your home. How about praying and asking God to help you and help your wife get through this together.
Keep praying. Every day,write your a love letter…keep on pledging your love and commitment to her.
Ask her to pray with you…..keep on wooing her. She needs to see you make real effort to repair the damage.
As for your job,if you cannot transfer…start thinking of a new one or start a business.
I pray that you all get through this together as a stronger family in the end.
God bless you.
Madam forgive ur husband n let by gone by gone ,what kind of a woman are u ? Y are u being so hard on ur husband? Forgive him for Heaven’s sake,he said he is sorry,hear him n stop forming I want to process everything, remember that life is turn by turn it can be ur turn tomorrow n u will also ask for forgiveness .Mbok for give him
Never ever do that again, it is very wrong,once with a woman who isnt your wife matters a lot and can ruin everything.
She (your boss) just wants to destroy your marriage.
Would you have liked it if your wife slept with her boss to prevent her from being sacked or some thing.
You’ve hurt her ,leave your job and sort things out with your wife,you have to be free from your agent of darkness and marriage wrecker boss.
May GOD open doors of opportunities for you and your family.
Please ma,forgive him and show the devil how founded by GOD your home is,and how you will never bow to challenges thrown your way.
Peace be unto your family
Please Ma’am forgive your husband, from the way he has been pleading, begging everyone to talk to talk to you seems to me he has realized his mistakes. Please find a place in your heart to forgive him, to err is human and to forgive is divine. Please don’t let unforgiveness destroy your home. Give no inch to the devil before you regret it later. I know you wanna think through everything and but while at it don’t let it exceed the required limit. Ask the Holy Spirit to comfort you and you both should go for therapy. Pray like never before and communicate, play and forgive like never before. Las Las you will be ok and I know that this too shall pass….
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