True Life Story: Be Careful Who You Trust With Your Relationship
Hi Lively Stones,
Please keep me anonymous. I was posted to Lagos for my service, I only have one relative in Lagos, my father’s cousin’s daughter, Aunty Ari (not real name). She was a single lady working with an Airline. She was 33 years old. When I moved in with her, I saw she lived a very high class life. When she was around, all kinds of men with bug cars came to her place. Aunty Ari was a lekki big girl with different sugar daddies.
At the time, I had someone who was interested in me from Owerri. He (Francis) is 11 years older than me. I loved him but I was afraid of the age difference cos he use to treat me like a child. We dated in and out for three years. When I was in Lagos, he used to travel to come and see me. I confided in Aunty Ari….that I like Francis alot, he is kind, humble, patient and well to do but the age difference is my fear….Ari advised me not to agree to marry this man, that he will be too old for me and treat me badly.
Then somewhere along the line, I met someone who was just 3 years older than me. We actually met in church and he really wanted to marry me. So, here I was, drawn between two men who wanted to marry me. Aunty Ari then began to advise me to go for the younger guy cos he was nearer in age to me. She advised me to dump this other man. I dumped the older guy and decided to focus on this new guy.
Francis did everything to beg me, I refused to listen to him. I embarrassed him and told him never to come near me again. I had to do it, Ari told me to do that. That I must forcefully get rid of him. She even said, Francis has been so persistent for three years cos maybe he wants to use me for money ritual. I believed her.
It was not long that I noticed that Aunt Ari was not only dating but sleeping with Francis. I was shocked but she later told me that she likes him alot, that she found out that he was not a bad guy after all…. and since I was no longer interested, they decided to go ahead. To be honest, I did not really mind but I used to suspect, Aunt Ari actually deceived me to dump Francis so she can go for him. Before you could say Jack, Aunty Ari got pregnant for Francis, and she practically forced him to pay her bride price.
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Francis is a wealthy guy and he made sure to buy Aunty Ari a Mercedes car, showered her with money and everything. As they were planning to get married, Aunty Ari did not tell me that she was not renewing her rent,cos two months after she hurriedly got Francis to do her marriage introduction, she moved into a duplex that Francis paid for her in Lekki. Ari said I cannot move in with her cos shes married. I became stranded. I had no choice but to move in with the guy I was dating and that was my biggest mistake.
This guy I moved in with was just asking me for S** …S**….everyday. I told him I would not indulge in S** until I am married. He then started treating me badly, insulting me and cheating on me. I became emotionally distraught. I was almost done with my service and already gotten a bank job waiting for me, so I did not want to go back to Owerri. I had no choice but to call Francis. I explained to him to borrow me money to rent a place, I promised to pay him back.
Francis immediately wired me 600k. I got a place and moved in. When Francis came to Lagos, he visited me and asked me why I dumped him, I told him cos I was afraid of the age difference and Aunty Ari advised me to leave him. He said Ari told him that I gave my virginity to another man and he felt betrayed. I told him I was still a virgin. Francis told me that even though he is with Ari, he is still in love with me. He said he is only marrying her cos of the baby shes pregnant with.
So now, I discovered Ari lied, stole my man and purposely got pregnant for him. I am really furious with her. I discovered that even Francis is 11 years older, he treats me better than any other person has. He never pressured me for S**….he only wants to guide me so I dont get into the hands of wolves. Francis wants to marry me,….he wants to end things with Ari. I know Ari does not even like Francis, she is after his money. Should I give Francis a chance?
One thing I know is, if Francis and I get back together, Ari will do everything in her power to frustrate us….even murder….that b*tch is desperate. Francis is already upset that she lied….cos one of the reasons Francis wanted to marry me and has been waiting for me for years, is because he wanted to marry a decent girl, a virgin….and I kept myself …Ari lied to him that I was no longer a virgin…so Francis is done with her if I agree to come back to him.
Ari deceived me….took my man….forced me to go with a guy who was younger but only wanted S**….meanwhile, my Francis waited for me…never pressured me….I think love is better than age…I should chose Francis right? Please advise me….they are not married…only marriage introduction has been done…no bride price paid yet…can I please get my man back from this manipulative b*tch?
Francis already told Ari that he is done with her. She is begging him yet, she is threatening to deal with me…she has told family members that I want to seduce her fiancée. Now, my father is worried …he said I should forget about Francis because blood is thicker….that I am still young and can find a husband soon but Ari is older, I should let her have him. My father cant force me, he is only pleading for peace sake but my mom and siblings are on my side. Cos they feel Ari wanted to deceive me from marrying a good man cos I was naïve.
Now, Ari has stopped threatening…she is saying she can hook me up with a man, a rich man too…that I should leave Francis for her…so why didn’t she hook up herself with a man…why my own? Am I wrong for wanting to take back what was mine in the first place? I dated Francis for three years …Ari has only known him for 5 months. I need your advice….is Ari not wrong for her lies and deceit? I think it was God who opened my eyes before they got married…before it was too late…. please advise me…what should I do about Ari?
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So, this is how some men spend foolishly on women but will never help their fellow men, some men dey off me, lol. Thats by the way.
Please, leave Francis, he is married. I wont mince words with you sister. Leave Francis alone, he is a married man, you took his 600k, hope he wont blackmail you?
I wish you well.
Aiyaaa this your story is a pathetic one.but first of all,one thing that I must let you know, is that……………….. if you marry francis today it going to be a big battle for you and your aunty through out until she dies or get some one that she can marry and forget about Francis.if not una go die there ooo because a hot high classic girl like ari can do anything to make sure she gets what she want from a richer men. And again she will be seeing you like small rat wan try her abi? Them never born you well. And then second of all is this dose Francis loves you because of your virginity ? Dose that means if you have been disvirgin by any one while you break up with him. He’s ain’t gonna love you again anymore? . Abeg my sister try to know this and don’t be carried away because he has money. Because there are many younger guy that will love you even if you are not a virgin anymore, but the truth must be told most of them may not be rich as Francis now. So that you dad advice there may be sense in some parts especially that part that says you are still young and can find some one. Bikonu. Nne wayo wayo ooh.(small small my dear).
I love this story. My happiness is that Francis loves you and is ready to marry you,he is still interested in you even though he impregnated Ari.
You have to take back Francis with all you have got,don’t allow anyone tell you otherwise,he has only done introduction and introduction is not marriage.
Take back Francis,you knew him before her,she knew him through you,collect your man as e dey hot,don’t allow her introduce you to any yeye rich man,be wise,be careful,you must take back Francis. # Take back your man…. I wish you all the best my love,the Lord is with you. Husband snatcher oshi nahim that your cousin be.
If I were you,I will tell Francis to go and pay bride price,do court marriage and relocate with him. Imagine ooo, a man you have known for 3years nahim one yeye abandoned lekki babe wants to snatch from you under 5months,it can’t work.
I don’t agree to you marrying Francis and it is not because of Ari. You had doubts before which are still valid. Sometimes women appreciate a man better when he is with someone else because he becomes more attractive.
If your aunty convinced you and you agreed and didn’t even mind that your aunty is dating Francis, so why do you want Francis back?
Francis life is complicated now because he is expecting a baby from Ari, he should rather go and focus on his life. Don’t be a third wheel. You are young and can always find someone your age that will love and treat you well. Let Francis and Ari go be together
If I were you,I won’t marry Francis o cos he already complicate matters by having another child with another woman which is still my family,even though we aren’t sure if the child is for him or not to avoid physical and spiritual battles that you won’t be able to fight at the long run,but I will make sure Francis establish me b4 I finally let him go,can’t loose in both ways na