I met Tochi( not real name) six years ago. From our first talk we felt this connection and from there we got so close that we are now best friends. We always enjoy each other’s company and before we know it we started making love with each other.
It wasn’t just s*x, it was love for both of us. He told me several times that if I can wait for him that he would love to marry me. We sometimes have serious misunderstanding and we both tell each other hurtful words but still we can’t stay away from each other. I truly love him and because of that I rejected all the guys coming to date me or marry me.
We both support in each other’s life’s. Sometimes I stylishly ask him to go and get married because I want him to finally and officially ask me out because we are too close to be apart.
I thought he felt the same way but earlier this year he told me his sister is linking him up with another lady to marry. I felt shattered because I thought our closeness could lead to marriage.
He’s planning on marrying this other lady that he met this year and funny enough he’s not even sorry for anything. He doesn’t know my true intentions and feelings for him. He always tell me he love me but now I don’t know anymore.
I can’t stay away from him because he’s my best friend and I’m so attached to him but each time I go close to him I hurt my own feelings. Love is really something else. I need your advice please
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What a drag
The problem started from the beginning
Your aim was just to be best friends and as that love making
Was inevitable at that moment, and we all know making love to someone you close to will bring emotional attachment no matter what, my dear I will advice you to move on and you can do without him and all… Buh to me u were to relaxed
Take a walk sis, that guy may like you but not for wife matters.
The mistake you made was not defining your relationship at first. A man and a woman’s mind work differently. He was just using you to satisfy his urges sadly.
Either you swallow your pride and tell him what you feel or you count your losses and let him go. Reduce all communications with him to the barest minimum. That should help you get over him and also send a message to him.
Pray and God will give you your man. Good luck Sis.
Have a talk with him,tell him your mind, feelings and disappointment.
Leave him alone and invest in yourself. Somebody that deserves you is just by the corner waiting for you to leave the guy alone then he will approach you.You guys were just friends enjoying yourselves, it is well.Allow him marry whom the sister has introduced him to.
A two way communication is important at all times. take a break, give it time and heal properly…… you should learn to stop seeing yourself as SECOND OPTION… you are someones first and best option, sis.
Friends with benefits….
You made a mistake not defining your relationship with your friend. You think you’re in love with him while he sees you as someone to satisfy his S.e.xual urges.
Girl, sit him down and tell him how you feel, how you were awaiting the day he’ll officially ask you to be his girlfriend. From his reaction you’ll know whether for him you were just a use and dump(it’s obvious he doesn’t love you for him to be marrying another). Just bare your mind to him and be ready to cut ties and move on with your life. No more S.e.x with him!
Your relationship with him was not properly defined from the onset. Hence, he never thought of converting you to his wife at any point.
Now you know better.
Sit him down and discuss this matter with. Afterwards, end whatever you have with him and keep a distance for your own sanity.
If you keep the communication lines open, you may never get over him.
Good luck.
Dear,since did not propose 2 u,u cant 4se him 2 mari u his mind is not in marying u its u dat is 2 loose all in d name of luv,it may be a test 2 u bt u failed no man can luk 4 a loosd girl 2 marry pls allow him 2 follow his hat i bliv ur hat wil stop deciving u.
Please move on with your life your relationship was never defined from day one.
Hi,
I think you need to retrace your steps. Why would you be sleeping with a guy who is not your husband? You gave him the cookies for free girl!
Well,here are my thoughts:
1. Tell him how you feel about him. See if that would make him reconsider marrying the other lady. If he feels the same for you,he would try and work things out with you. If not…then let him go and you will find your match later in life.
2. Save what is remaining of your pride,stop sleeping with him.loose his number and forget he ever existed. He may have just been using you to satisfy his urge. Hence he never really committed to you.
As they say: he friend zoned you.
Next time,in a relationship, make sure the relationship objectives are clearly defined before you commit.
Do not let this make you sad or discourage you…let it be a learning curve.
You will be fine.
Cheers!