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But that is not the real problem. The real problem began when I started to have feelings for this young lady. I did not plan to,but as she came around,I saw how disciplined she was. She never made any suggestive move or s*xual move to me yet I was falling for her like mad.
I looked forward to her coming around. She talked about her dreams to one day go to Lagos state university to study Law. I encouraged her and told her not to give up. I was just too scared though that about my feelings for her.
Sometimes,she would help me clean and cook. She was a fantastic cook. She would watch movies too in my place. One day,I saw how she reacted watching a romantic movie. I saw tears in her eyes. I asked her why she was crying. She was like,no one would ever love her like that.
I told her not to worry that things will change for her. She then dropped the bombshell: She said I know you would never love me cos you have never tried to seduce me. You feel pity for me but I wish you would find me attractive and make me feel loved.
I was shocked at her outburst. I then asked her if she knew the meaning of seduce cos seduce is a negative word. She said she thought it meant that a man finds a woman attractive. I told her I do find her attractive but I do not want to contribute to her pain. She was already in a bad place.
She was silent and I fought everything in me not to hug her and tell her how I felt about her. She nodded and told me she understood. From that day,she acted very shy towards me. She still came around but I could sense she wanted me to make a move but also did not want to put me in trouble cos I was her only friend in this town.
I am writing this to you because I need your advise and counsel. what do I do…I love this lady with all my heart. I know she is waiting in me to make a move…to ”seduce” her like she said…I am just scared of making things worse for her. The only solution I see for us is for us to run away but that in itself means we will be looking over our shoulders for the rest of our lives.
What about her mother who still lives on the farm property? They might come after her or throw her out. I could rent a new place for them cos rent is not so expensive in these area but how do I even broach the subject of me running away with another man’s wife even though the man is 80 years old?
All these I been thinking when she came to see me a few days ago and reported that she was pregnant. Pregnant for her husband’s son who raped her. She threatened to kill herself than have a baby for the man who raped her. I was so badly pained. She cried and told me if only I would save her by taking her away from here.
That night,I cried and cried. I began to make plans. I would now have to do something cos this lady does not deserve all these painful treatment. All she wants is to go to school for goodness sake. Throughout the next day,her no was switched off. I became worried but I could not dare got see her in her place.
Four days later,she replied my text saying she was sick. I begged her to try and come see me. She came and she looked so feeble and faint. She had taken abortion pill to flush the pregnancy. She looked like she was going to die. And no one cared for her if she did.
I really need to do something before its too late. I may never forgive myself if anything happens to her. Please advise me. Please help me save this young girl. I love her so much and I cannot bear to see her any more in pain.I just pray I do not get into trouble and really be accused of seducing another man’s wife.
She is in my place resting as I write this. So innocent.So beautiful…
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It is in a man’s nature to always wanting to be a saviour to women. Sometimes it’s best not to be the night I shining armor… I think you feel lust and pity for her as you want to save her. Not actually love. I would advise you to not get tangled with all these dramas. Be careful
What you feel for her is pity not love..you can only advice her and help in the little ways you can..she is someone’s wife not girlfriend. Be careful with this lady please.its not that you are wicked.. hold your self and use your head wisdom is profitable to direct.
Curiosity killed the cat.
In as much as you want to help her which is a noble thing to do I think you’re getting too involved for comfort like in wanting to run away with another Man’s wife, that’s only trouble you’re inviting for yourself.
Help the way you can, with words of comfort and encouragement but if it’s getting out of hand like it’s going now please set your boundaries. Stop her from coming to your house and ‘help’ from afar. That’s the wisest thing to do instead of this seduce she’s wanting from you.
Flee my brother! Flee!!
Bros…..please be careful ooo
Help her in the little way you can.
You can’t run away with her because like you said, you’ll look over your shoulder for a long time since she is someone else’s wife. I think you both should talk about this feelings you have and how destructive it will be for the both of you. Be there for her but please don’t touch her. That will only make things worse for her and you could be punished by law for taking someone else’s wife. So, look for a human right organization to help her away from this. Then you could pay for the family’s accommodation and probably help her start something for herself or go to school. But first thing is not to touch her in a s*xual way then involve a human right organization.
Thanks for being there for her.
My brother this is bad. Stealing another man’s wife. Just stop thinking about doing that. It is your emotion that is making you not to see that it is bad. Pls use your brain.
You got infatuated (emotionally attached) to the lady due to the huge closeness u allowed between you two. So the only way out for you is to let go of her. Stop seeing her. Tell her to stop coming to your place. It won’t be easy to let go of the emotions but once u are ready to let go of it, it will definitely go away after some weeks / months.
Since you don’t want her to suffer, you can ask for her account number or and be sending money to her if u want to (If she doesn’t have a bank account, send it through another person’s account, that is close to her that she trust, or lastly by cash, by sending someone to give it to her if that’s the only possible alternative) but make sure you stop seeing her physically if you want to let go of the infatuation.
I pray you listen before you let things go worse than this. You might be decent since all these days, but you might fall soon if you keep letting her stay with you. What if she start seducing you by touching your body, will you be able to resist her touch?
Pls let her go and don’t do this miserable sin of snatching another man’s wife (no matter how old he is). Just provide for her if you could and keep in touch through phone conversation but make sure you put the physical meetings to a stop.
Face your work and life goals. May God help you.
It is well !!!
Take her to the hospital first let the doctor run some tests on her,u said she very feeble n weak n looks like she is going to die,so that she doesn’t die in ur house, because if any mistake happens n she dies in ur house,u will be in much bigger trouble, another thing, it’s good u want to help her because of the delima that she’s in.But please do everything possible to take love n that feelings u have her out of ur mind, throw it very far in the sea, first of all,they will said that u raped her n killed her,u wouldn’t have anyone as a witness,i hope u know,just help as a friend n nothing more.
I must really comment u for staying strong till now, keep it up, no mess up ooo,if u mess up e dey for ur head like say u carry the whole world for ur head,stay strong n God will u pull through
If there is a possibility, that pregnancy should be flushed out, thereafter,let that girl return to her fate,u can’t help her of where she is right now,u will be endangering ur life in the matas without u, please stop every feeling of love u have for her, because if u do anything to her in this state,u will be taking undue advantage of the situation,
Get rid of the pregnancy and make life meaningful for her,take the mom out of that slavery don’t let her die please I beg of you,that is not marriage but slavery, save this lady from dying sir
Hello,
You have really tried to make a positive impact on the young lady, may God reward you.
Pls, you need to take her to hospital first for medical attention.
I will advise you only help her from distance, set boundaries and if possible do not allow her in to your apartment for now because if anything happen to her it will put you in trouble.
What I read from your story is not love is totally lost, don’t forget she’s someone’s wife,
pls do not toy with your life because you don’t really know the genesis of her whole story.
Regards.
Discuss your fear with her. She might have a better idea. Concealing your feelings will keep you enslaved to your mental state. Talk to her. It is long walk. You can only decide to walk it deliberately. All the best
Hello Sir,
Thank you for sharing such an emotional story with us. Indeed,you have tried to be a good man.
And God will reward you for that.
Right now,your focus should not just be on the feelings you have for her:that young lady needs medical attention and safety.
I suggest you seek out NGOs and government bodies that can help save her. Rape is a punishable crime and she needs to be helped professionally.
Do not get in front of it…tell her what to do,so that it does not look like you are the one pushing her to do anything. Let her have information and empower herself.
She is 20…she is not a baby…she can take her destiny in her own hands. Introduce her to NGOs that can help her…you support from the shadows.
She needs to be protected from that old man and his rapist sons.
She can also file for a divorce from the old man. You can support her financially to get a place out of town and file for a divorce from where she is. Her family can stay with her in a new place where no one can find them.
So get busy and start looking for organizations that can help. There are a ton of them on Facebook and Instagram. We will also try and do some findings for you.
We hope someone will reach out too and help.
In the meantime,tell her not to give up. She should be strong and courageous. This will soon be over. God will send help and she will be free from this bondage. Let her hold on….the sun will shine on her again.
God bless you.
Yes. She is not a baby. She jus needs little direction
Thank you for bringing such an emotional story to us. I must commend you for having a heart to help. You feel pity and perhaps infatuation for her and you both don’t need it right now; do discuss this with her as well. Please help her without having an affair with her;she is somebody’s else’s wife till she is divorced(this of course depends on the type of marriage she has with Baba). She needs medical attention, after which she needs to incident her rape to the nearest police station. Also please assist her with Non-Governmental Organizations (NGO) like FIDA who can help her facilitate divorce proceedings. It will also be her decision to take out the pregnancy if she wants. You can also help her look for her an accommodation since you mentioned it earlier so she,her Mum and any other member of her family can stay far away from Baba, his sons and wives. This should help her heal and start her life afresh which includes learning a trade or business. Please encourage not to give up. I am sure you will reap the good deeds of assistance in no distant time.
You should take her to a clinic first off and then help her family also if you can. Let her file for a divorce and then you can both decide if you too want to be with each other, but remember she has a dream you have to support, you have plenty battles to fight also.
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