My Marriage Is About To Crash!
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GOOD AFTERNOON MENTOR. Please Help! My Marriage Is About To Crash!! Repost & Hide my Identity Sir.
I have been married for one year now and I am not happy neither do I have peace of mind.
First my husband has a very bad temper which I knew even before we got married and he said he will change but he never laid a finger on me before the marriage, he is always angry over any little thing, he doesn’t allow me associate with people even our neighbours and he keeps to himself that anytime I want to talk to him he will say I am disturbing him and he hardly talks to me, he doesn’t believe in someone falling sick and hardly and he said sorry he is not in his dictionary.
He became physical violence immediately after marriage and he says am getting strong with the beatings. He uses words that are so hurtful for me and shouts on me all the time to the extent of him always banging the calls on me, I select the words I use in order not to upset him.
I cry everyday and I have lost weight though I have reported to my parents and they have been advicing him and he will say he will change but continues the same attitude when nobody is there.
I have been praying and patient with him thinking all will be well but it’s getting worse everyday. I am so confused and sad.
PLEASE ADVICE ME ON WHAT TO DO
From: Marital Counselling(MAC)
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Hello Sister. Pls leave that house, once violence occurs, the victim must leave immediately, pls leave quickly. This is simple logic, by leaving the house, you will prevent yourself from being battered, you will prevent yourself from having emotional trauma, infact you will prevent your husband from being guilty of wife battering and even prevent him from going to prison and even prevent him from committing murder. Don’t tell him you are leaving oo, just leave and tell him to go change, infact just meet in public places. Also make yourself happy, you can do it Sister, speak positive and good words to yourself, dear sister this is what i do daily, I speak good and encouraging words to myself, pls you can do it, I know you just smiled….lol, you will thank me for telling you this. I love you Sister. GOD bless you.
U saw all dis sign and went ahead with d marriage, anything u did not change before marriage u can’t change after marriage.
You have to separate from him for now, this is for your own good and state of mind ooo,don’t allow depression to set in before you take a step. Just one year and things are as worse as this,so how long will you continue enduring this bull shit,separate from him and let him work on his temperament biko. Haaaaaa,just imagine oooo,marriage is to be enjoyed at it fullest not to be endured with physical abuse and violence, malice and quarrel. You are too young to continue in this way,are you in bondage or what?You can’t talk to your husband in peace again without him abusing you,you do not deserve such a human being how much more call him husband.
All these red flags and you still went ahead and married him? Chaii, when will women especially, learn? Marriage to a particular person is not do or die, you know?
Anger is not a spirit you can wish away. You need deliverance from it. When in that state, the individual can do ANYTHING, which is already happening with the show of violence and all to you.
Please, you need to save your life. Move away from him. Get both parents, and if you belong to a church, your Pastor involved. He needs to know he has a problem that “resolutions” cannot solve. He needs God’s deliverance.
Until he does that, history will keep repeating itself.
You must separate at least hor now if not forever. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured. These days domestic violence kills a lot. Please for your own good leave.