True Life Story: Ashamed To Admit That My Wife Is Abusing & Manipulating Me

True Life Story: Ashamed To Admit That My Wife Is Abusing & Manipulating Me

Good evening Lively Stones,

Its taking alot from me to share my story. But I have given Jzhane permission to share because I know maybe someone may learn from my mistakes. But I plead for anonymity and respect in the comments. My name is Franklin (not real name). I am 35 years old banker. My two years marriage was the most traumatic experience…I do not wish to relive it.

There are many people living in marriages these days but they are not happy. They are facing all kinds of problem, but they are stuck because fo what people will say or fear of something they can’t admit to others that they have done.

I met my wife during the wedding of a popular politician’s daughter. She was on the bridal train, and I was on the groom’s train. From talking, we connected and after a few months, took things to the next level. She seemed like a great girl. I have had a fill of my own escapades and I felt it was the right time to settle down. Maybe I also got carried away as to how domestic this babe was, she was the type to come around my place, cook, f*ck, made me feel like she was wife material.

It so happens that she is from a polygamous home and grew up in the ghetto. So, I knew she was a bit rough on the edges …I laughed at her ghetto jokes and experiences …little did I know that was soon going to be our reality. Our marriage was a big deal…the big guns were in attendance. I noticed my wife knew big people in the society. It was later on, I found out that she was a society girl that had been f*cked by most politicians.

After we got married, things started to unfold. My wife kept late nights…I could not complain because I too kept late nights, but I began to worry because it seemed like she did not think that as the woman of the house, she needs to be more homely like she did when we were dating. She stopped cooking at home…. we eat food that was ordered.

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The S** was still good but I noticed she was not as enthusiastic as before….I thought she had a great libido to match mine, but I later discovered, she was still f*cking these big guys in the society. I caught her red-handed chatting with one of them. I queried her for cheating, and she said she was only catching cruise.

Later, she explained that what she does is to organize girls for these men. That she is a PR consultant for events. That she provides special entertainment for VIPs. Now, I realized she was no ordinary event planner like she claimed. She was always out of our home…at parties she was planning. We began to quarrel alot. And she would get physical with me.

At first, I would fend her off…but she began to began to inflict bodily harm on me. She was a fighter. When we fought, she would injure me so much, I would actually be unable to sleep for days. After the fights, we wont speak to each other for days until she would use make up S** to come and apologize. The last straw we had was when she left the house for good four days to go and plan an event in this same Lagos and camped in a hotel instead of coming back home.

I called he rline for those 4 days…she never responded but sent a one-line text to say I should stop disturbing her, that she is working. That was when I got upset and changed the locks of our apartment. I was like, if you leave this house for four days without me knowing what you are up to, I will not just allow you back without a valid reason. When she returned, she was drunk. She began to create a scene outside. My estate security had to remove her.

That annoyed her, she reported me to her cousin from the ghetto. Those ones came waylaid me on my way to work. They destroyed my car and gave me a beating. I was rushed to the hospital. My wife came to the hospital and created more scenes. That was when I knew I was done. I had married the devil and her family. So, as soon as I left the hospital, I travelled to the East and blocked her on my lines and social media.

My wife went and started asking all my friends and family to beg me…none of them wanted to help because they all know that she had goofed and she was dangerously violent. Eventually, she got my dad to talk to me, to give her another chance…with much persuading, I agreed that she should return home.

So now, my wife does not fight me when we have any issues…instead, she throws and breaks anything within her sight.She said its years of rough life…that she will learn how to drop all that rough attitude with time. Its been two years of marriage…no children…we have done plenty tests…no medical issue with us. Now, all I hear from my wife is that I will soon get tired and marry another wife who will have children for me.

In my frustration, I told her it was her fault she cant get pregnant because she had messed up her womb with the wayward life she lived. I did not really mean that so I immediately apologized but she was heated and slapped me and began to pound me. If I raise my hand on her…it will be another story. I want a divorce, but she has threatened to deal with me if I divorce her. Her words: if you ever leave me, you can no longer sleep with your two eyes closed.

What she means is, she can organize people to make my life miserable…. now, she has calmed down and used S** again to try and in change my mind…my family thinks I am bewitched because I cannot get rid of her. She has a way of manipulating with crying, saying she needs help to deal with her ghetto nature and anger problems. Sometimes I feel she is maybe trying to change but alot of times, I feel she cannot change.

I do not love her anymore. I want her out of my life. She also uses her late mother’s plea to get me. Before her mom died last year, she made me promise not to abandon her daughter…to always overlook her flaws…so when I feel like leaving her…she says her mother will not rest in her grave if I dump her. And I will start feeling guilty.

Another thing she does is use my mistakes against me. I have done some financial dealings that I cannot mention here. She knows about it. If I leave her, she might expose me, I might lose my job and expose some highly placed people as well. That would be very catastrophic. My business associates may never do business with me anymore.

I am tired…I am unhappy. I just want to move on but now you understand why its not easy to move on from an abusive marriage…so much is at stake. Please advise me.

Anonymous

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