True Life Story: How An Emotional Affair Led To Masturbati0n Addict!on
Dear Lively Stones,
I need some advice. I have been involved in emotional affair with a male doctor that attended to me during my pregnancy in a general hospital. Please pardon my story may be long but I want to explain how I got into this problem. It all started when I was 7 months pregnant. The doctor was assigned to carry out an examination on me and I noticed that as he was examining me, he was sort of finger!ng me. I thought it was just my mind but after a few seconds, he said…relax…tell me how do you feel?
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To God, I was very ashamed…I said nothing. This is my first pregnancy. I am married to a police DPO who is always been moving around but we base here in Lagos. I am his second wife cos his first wife left with their children. I swear to God, after that first incident, the doctor told me to always insist that he be the one to check on me during my anti natal checks. I just nodded. The next time I came, he was not around, I asked of him and was told he was not around. I did all my checks and left.
The next time I came, I was 8 months pregnant. I saw him and he smiled. I smiled back but I was very nervous. After all the tests, I was told by the nurses to see the doctor. The way they smiled, I think they all know what the doctor is up to cos they are very friendly with him…very very friendly from what I see. So, I met him for the evaluation. After everything, he asked me to lie down for an examination of the baby but I told him I don’t want to. He said he wants to prepare me for easy labour by massaging my vagina. He said vagina massage is important for a woman who wants to give birth naturally, that it makes it easy for them to push. That was why I agreed. That is how he finger£d me for several seconds and I began to $quirt…I thought I was urinat!ng but he said its called $quirt and that it means I am enjoying the massage.
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This doctor started licking his hands with my fluids on his fingers. This evaluation, he makes sure no nurse is around. I know it was wrong but I also believed that the finger!ng was for me to have an easy labour. This continued every week that I was getting close to my delivery date. Sometimes, I would actually have an orga$m while he did it. Other times, I would $quirt and he licked it, smiling. And he would always say my husband is a lucky man. I blocked every feeling of guilt cos I know alot of police wives engage in alot of affairs…there were always rumors about it. I told myself that I was not cheating cos the doctor did not pen£trate.
One day, just days before I gave birth, after finger!ng me for while, the next thing I felt was his tongue. I was shaken but he put his fingers on my lips to keep quiet. By this time, he had brought out his manh00d and was trying to insert it but I refused, so he began to stroke it instead. He continued until he released. I was so $cared and felt guilty afterwards. I told him he was wrong and he apologized for it. he said he could not help himself. Days later, I went into labour and had my baby. It was a very easy labour too.
After I was discharged from the hospital, I was relieved the pregnancy was over so I would not see the doctor anymore. But one day my phone rang and it was the doctor. He said he cant stop thinking of me and told me to call him anytime I am ma$turbat!ng myself. I told him I dont ma$turbate. He said I should try it, that I would like it. That is how I started trying it. And I liked it. Gradually I started ma$turbat!ng with him on the phone. He convinced me that its not wrong since there is no physical contact between us.
I had enough time on my hands cos I am a full time wife, hubby hardly around. I do it on my own or with him talking di.r.ty to me on the phone. The situation now is, I am now addicted to ma$turbati0n that I no longer enjoy s3x with hubby. Anytime hubby wants to make love, I am not feeling it and hubby is wondering what is happening. I lie to him that I am tired but I know that I am not feeling it anymore. Please help me with tips on how to stop ma$turbating. I feel trapped and guilty.
Anonymous
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There has been too much investment in the wrong mindset.
First, work on your mind and soul. You need to loathe this mindset as it will lead you to a dark path.
It started at first as just pleasurable and its not wrong cos no one was hurt but now, you are hurting your marriage….you are depriving yourself of experiencing real sexual intimacy, replacing it with a copycat called pleasure experience.
You know what to do, your mind and soul needs discipline. Simply put, anytime you feel the urge to masturbate….get your mind busy. Find your husband to feel the urge for sexual intimacy. Focus on your husband…not the doctor.
Imagine the doctor as a cat fish pretending to be who he is not. He probably does the same thing to many other women.
You were a victim….its time to take back your power and will from the doctor and masturbation.
Discipline your mind and soul. Drive out the dark thoughts with light from the word of God.
Study self help books and the bible based devotional books. Your mind is where the healing needs to begin.
You also need to block the doctor’s number. He is the devil posing as a pleasure giver.
Healthy and pure loving thoughts is what you need to concentrate on. Avoid stimulating vidoes and materials like adult movies.
Have a heart to heart with your husband….if you like fingering, teach him how to do it. Enjoy your marriage. Do not let anyone or any thought destroy it.
The power is in your hand….you can actually take that power and say never again to that influence.
Discipline everytime the urge comes….discipline your urges and desires. Discipline will make you understand that you may want to do things but if its not with the only person you are allowed to do it, you will not.
Finally, get you an accountability partner, to deal with you and help you through the healing and abstinence process. You cant get rid of addiction in one day. It will take some time, you may fall on your road to recovery but with an accountability partner like a life coach or therapist, you will be able to remain focus no matter how slow, hard and painful the process gets.
Wish you all the best.
The doctor took advantage of your vulnerability and naiveness. He was wrong and acted unethically. If you reported him with proofs, he could be sent to jail and lost his licence. You also indulged him by playing along. Both of you were morally wrong. That act you both committed have spiritual and cultural implications in some families.
However, there’s a way out. You could tell Doctor that hubby caught you in the act of masturbating with him. He’s forgiven though, but warned seriously against reoccurrence. Knowing hubby is a senior Police Officer, Doctor will stop if you too drop.
Meanwhile, you need therapy to stop masturbation. Or have strong personal determination, commitment and resolve to stop on your own by yourself. It’s hard but possible because, the triggers are everywhere and easily contracted. Steps to take includes, avoid tripping on the triggers. Stop the emotional fantasies and connections to sexual immoralities generally. You need to get to that level of consciousness to self-determine to help deliver yourself. It’s a conviction. Masturbation, I believe, is a condition that have no curative drugs prescription for now. Simply just avoid certain exposures to sexuality and immoral thoughts and you are free. Some will ask you to pray and see your spiritual leader. See, even with your Holy books under your pillow, you can be tempted to wank and cum on your pillows. It’s as strong and satanic as that. I hear it also can cause blindness and impotency for males. Please help yourself and don’t let this addiction wreck you and your emotional well being. Do it to save your sexual relationship with hubby too. How would you feel if your child or children, or even distinguished family members catch you in the act someday. Masturbation is so terrible that the irresistible urge can be triggered just anywhere; even in sacred places. We have heard of cleaners seeing cums in toilets of worship centres. I even read somewhere that some popular Gospel artistes reportedly were once addicted to porn and masturbation but pulled through after long struggles. Only God and yourself can deliver you from this situation. Read Jeremiah 32:27. It is possible and doable. Best of luck.
It’s rather unfortunate and unprofessional of the doctor. Ger a therapy, clear your mind off the doctor, block him anytime he calls with unknown number. Pray to God to help you.
Firstly, block the doctor. He’s been unprofessional and also an evil one. He’s neither your husband nor a sex therapist. So, you have no business sharing the details of your sex life with him.
The best way to overcome masturbation is self-discipline. What lies in your power to do, lies in your power not to do.
If you’re a believer, engage more in spiritual exercise as it will help it die a natural death.