True Life Story: My Wife Who Refused To Forgive My Mother Now Wants My Forgiveness-Wife Reacts
Hello Lively Stones,
I have no choice but to react to your last two stories which my husband wrote to you and you shared on your blog. I also thank you for letting me share my side of the whole unfortunate incident. When I was dating my husband, he was a very chronic cheat. Several times we both broke up cos of one woman or another. Many told me to leave him alone but he is my first love…even my person I call my ex only slept with me after my husband disvirgined me many years ago.
Our of and on relationship was really toxic…but I was in love with this man. He just had a way of charming his way back to me. One time, we dated and broke up for almost a year…that was when I met Kinston, my ex. I was with Kinston for almost seven months but my husband then, stole me back to himself again. I left Kinston, a good man to camp with my cheating boyfriend now husband.
My friends removed their hands from my relationship matter. My husband attributed his behavior to childhood trauma caused by his father who had several women when they were growing up. I felt pity and love to him…I felt I could help him be a better man. And for a while, my husband became a better man. People did not give him a chance but I did. We then started planning wedding after almost five years of off and on dating. During our wedding planning, my husband began his old habits.
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It was like he was afraid of getting married. He became very irritable and found faults in everything I did. I suspected a girl was involved and I was right…he was sleeping with the youth corper in his office. When I found out, I did not call off the wedding, I only told him to end the relationship out of respect for me. He tried to end it but the girl claimed she was pregnant. Hubby wanted her to abort it but she refused. Instead, she threatened to report him to the management of the company.
According to my husband, he thought of a clever way to get rid of the girl, so he told her that he would marry her if she got rid of the pregnancy. That he is just not ready to father a child yet. To prove to her he was serious, he broke up with me….through a text message…called off our wedding through a text message…without explaining to me first that it was a prank to get the girl to have an abortion.
I was devastated…I almost committed s#icide….I could not believe after all I have endured with this man…six weeks to our wedding…he would call off the wedding through text…not even man enough to tell me in person…and his text said he wanted to marry the mother of his unborn child. I tried to call him but he did not pick up. I went to his house but he was not there. I waited until 9pm and he returned with the corper that night. I left without saying a word…I had no strength to say anything anymore.
The uber that picked me up noticed I was acting weird…he asked me if I was ok…I said no…that I want to end my life cos my fiancé just called off our wedding and I saw him with a young girl that was pregnant for him. The Uber man started to encourage me not to end my life over a man. That I am beautiful and I can get any man I like if I wanted. When he dropped me off…I dialed my ex and came over…that was the night we had s3x.
It was a drunken s3x experience….I told him I wanted to forget the pain I was feeling….I had drank many bottles of alcohol and I begged him to sleep with me to feel better. The next day, I was sick and he rushed me to the hospital. I was in the hospital for two days….my phone went dead…when I charged my phone…I saw missed calls and messages from my husband. I think they told him I was in the hospital cos he later came to see me in the hospital….that was when he told me his plan to prank the corper girl.
To me, I did not initially believe it was all a prank but I refused to listen to him….I asked him why he brought the girl to his house…he said he was just acting…to make the girl believe him. Poor girl…Ayo my husband had a very sweet tongue with women…I know cos I always fall for him. I still did not want to talk to him but about a week later…the girl had the abortion and the coast was clear for our wedding to carry on. I still wonder how hubby had the heart to deceive this girl but I was not in the best state of health so I did not think much.
More important to me was that, my wedding was back on and I was going to be saved from disgrace of disappointment. I was even sick on my wedding day…I was very fearful that my husband would fail me and abandon me on the alter. Eventually, we got married…I thought my troubles were over….a week later, I found out I was pregnant. To God who made me, i called my ex out of fear….not to tell him I was excited…but I wanted his help to get rid of the pregnancy. But Kinston did not pick my call so I sent him a voice note which I actually deleted later but of course, he heard the voice note already.
So Kinston called me and said he knows how much I have always wanted to marry Ayo…that I should not worry…that my secret is safe with him…he said…I can have an abortion or keep the baby…that he will not interfere until maybe the baby is 18 years old…then I can explain to the child what happened. I swear….I never saw anything wrong in that suggestion…so I agreed. But a few weeks later, I lied to Kinston that I miscarried the baby. I have proof of that…but Kinston never replied me. I thought that chapter of my life was finally closed.
And that is how…I carried Kinston’s baby in my husband’s house. When the baby was borna and later died….I blamed my mother in-law because she was negligent and crude…but I blamed myself more cos I felt God was punishing me for my sins. Well, I was hurt and bitter until I had other children. Kinston came out of the blues to ask what happened to his child. He said he wanted proof of the miscarriage I had….but I was scared I had no proof so I told him the truth…that the baby was born but the baby died.
That was the worst mistake I made so far…Kinston never believed for once the baby died of natural causes…he got angry and accused me and my husband of k#lling his child. He started threatening me to what happened so I had to block him off and put off my phone for many days. But anytime I put on my phone, Kinston managed to get another unknown number to call me. One night, he called and I did not know it was him….I began to argue with him on phone and that was when my husband walked into me, having a heated discussion with Kinston.
You see, I am not a good liar…my only fault is…I think I was too naive. I fell in love with a womanizer and I got pregnant for another man and told him the truth. I tried to do damage control but it backfired…I wish that child was even alive so we could do DNA…what if that child actually belongs to my husband? I wish I made better decisions but you see…I was betrayed six weeks before my wedding….how do I come out to say I am pregnant for another man one week after wedding?
I was not sure but my mind told me the baby was Kinston’s. And I wanted the problem buried with my child but I am not going to wonder if mama did not give a eight day old baby some concussion, maybe the baby was have been alive….the hospital said the concussion led to some reaction that the baby’s weak immune system could not fight. Kinston has served us a petition…
I am not afraid of petition…I was only afraid of my husband finding out what I did…and I am sorry for what I did. But is Ayo my husband sorry for all he put me through? He says he cant trust me anymore….how can he say that? After I have trusted him countless times after he failed me? I really and truly blame myself…I caused all of these. I wish I had truly moved on from him when he called off the wedding to prank a pregnant corper. I wish I never kept Kinston’s baby…maybe that child would have been alive today.
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I wish…I wish….right now…I am watching…whatever action Ayo wants to take….then I will know but I am done taking all the blame for everything. That is my story….all those accusing me of lies and asking my husband to divorce me….should remember…there are children involved…their parents are not perfect but we love our children. If it’s God’s will, then let divorce come. I am not ashamed of my mistakes…I own them and ask for understanding….I hope Ayo and his mother can also own their wrongs because I am not the only one at fault here.
For those advising my husband to divorce me….will you also ask him to take accountability of what cheating before and after marriage has caused? Yes…even after marriage…a leopard never changes its spots but I have accepted the flaws of the man I married….no one is perfect…those advising mama to send me away…will you ask her to apologize since the hospital report clearly states that the baby reacted to substances from concussion given?
God bless you.
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Dear Poster,
It’s a pity that this is the junction where you and your marriage have come to.
Obviously, you loved your husband but to think you could change him or hoped he would stop womanizing even when he called off your marriage for the sake of a cheating issue is laughable and not a way of dealing with such.
Yes, you wanted Ayo and welcomed him back when he pushed on with the wedding but you were careless and like you said we could be naive and act in a way that turns to hurt us later.
Since you’ve told your husband the truth, I will ask that you proof that you were truly sorry and as you ask for forgiveness from him, make peace with his mum too.
The past is hurtful but here is another opportunity to fix the future.
If you don’t have evidence to proof you didn’t deliberately kill the baby, then get a good lawyer and work with your husband to win the case
Your husband should be forgive and embrace your love as your have forgiven him and still forgives him today.
Women are always at disadvantage when cheating comes up no matter the circumstances surrounding the event. Men will expect forgiveness and people will demand you remain with a cheating man but they won’t stand a woman who cheated.
Keep your knees on the ground and ask God to forgive you, help you with wisdom and grace to solve the issues in victory and continue to build a beautiful home.
God’s grace.
Why is it difficult for you to forgive your mother-in-law?.The baby is dead and gone. This is one of the reason your husband is angry with you after you pinned the child on him you.
You knew your husband was a cheater before marrying him so that is not a factor here. You had a choice to walk away.
You need to apologize to your husband and his mother so has to forge forward and be able to deal with the current charges.
Your ex is just wasting his time. He has no proof of paternity plus the child is dead. The only thing he can achieve is to spoil your reputation. He doesn’t have any stronghold on you he only wants to blackmail you
You’re such a terrible person. You knew his a cheater and you could have walked away. You knew the child is not his and yet you went after his mother accusing her of deliberately killing her own grandchild. Your husband made a woman abort a child as to be with you. He cheated but he never pined any child on you. He should divorce you with immediate effect because even now you’re not truly sorry for your actions and inaction rather you still want to blame him for your poor decision and recklessness. If he goes on with this marriage you will show him shege in the future. He should run from you.