True Life Story: Stuck In A Loveless Marriage Because Of My Husband’s Ambition
Hello Lively Stones,
Please hide my details. I am very sad because I feel trapped in my marriage. Ten years ago, I married my husband. I met him as a Politian. His first wife had actually left him and travelled to UK with their son. Coming into his life, he was very fun and caring despite his busy schedule as a politician. I was never about his socialization which had many woman at his beck and call….as long as he was mine to come home to in the end.
Two years later, he won a major political position (I cant mention the position for safety reasons.). We were all so proud of him. But then, our marriage suffered it. He was attending to matters of state and politics…I was supposed to keep up my political assignments as his first lady and also the children but we saw each other less and less.
I did not want to complain…I only wanted him to succeed, so I supported him 100%. My husband too was a hard worker….he wanted to make a difference in this country where corruption is the order of the day. His political opponents were not letting him rest one bit. Like I said…I tried not to complain but our marriage suffered….our s3x life suffered. He had more side chicks than before, so when we even made love maybe once in 2 months, it was like, he was always tired and it was just for some sloppy seconds.
Again, I resolved not to complain. He forgot important things like wedding anniversary or birthdays. Even though I sent him reminders. His PAs were not helping the home front. They did not help him remember his family responsibilities at all. The second year of his time in office…for our second anniversary…I planned a surprise trip…gave him details a month before…I made sure his aides reminded him in his diary but he still did not show up.
I cried that day and consoled myself. Not too long, I started hearing rumors that one of his side chick is pregnant for him. I confronted him and he denied it. But he kept spending more and more time with this particular woman. She eventually gave birth and my husband told me he was not marrying her but he will take responsibility for her child. I felt betrayed.
Our marriage grew more distant. I was feeling so neglected more and more. When I moved with wives of other politicians, I heard rumors of them having secret lovers to keep them warm but I never considered it. But as my case got worse…I became desperate. However, I did not know how to do it. An idea came to me…I saw it in a movie…so I decided to try it. I started flirting with my driver.
When I am in the car alone with him…I would unbutton my shirt and rub my tits. At first…he tried to look away but after several times, he got the message and began to watch me…the day told him to f*ck me…it was in my guest room…he did not hesitate and that was how our affair started. There is something about having an affair…the excitement and the dangerous feeling of not being caught makes it more s3xy.
Its not like I am advocating for cheating but if your partner has abandoned you and he is getting his groove on…why should you die in lust? This affair lasted for five years. Even after my husband’s re-election. I think my husband suspected but he did not care. Lanre (my driver) and I fell in love and he was my everything. He was my confidant and my light. I began to regret my marriage.
Yes, I was married to a wealthy man but what is all the wealth without love and warmth and touch and feelings? Lanre even dumped his fiancée for me. He was serious about me. At first, it was just s3x…Lanre was a f*cker….he is a real man…but when we fell in love…he became a legend in my eyes. As it is…my husband’s tenure is coming to an end…Lanre wants me to divorce my husband because he wants to marry me.
To me…I would do that in a hurry…without thinking…but I know my husband….cheating he would not mind…but to go off and marry someone he considers low in class…he would make sure I suffer cos he does not want embarrassment. He would make sure I do not see my children. Once we quarreled and I told him I wanted a divorce…he said never would he grant a divorce…maybe after his tenure but I should know that I cannot take the children.
My husband has threatened to use his political power to make sure that if I divorce him…I do not see my children again. I am not ready to sacrifice my children but Lanre is quitting after this tenure which ends on less than one year cos he said he cannot keep loving me in secret…he wants to move on with his life.
So, I have to decide before the end of the tenure…do I quit my marriage, forfeit my children and go with the love I have known, the love that have been my comforts for so long? Or do I let Lanre go to stay stuck in a loveless marriage? Its obvious…our marriage is just for political outlook…my husband has more side chicks that any man I know with bastard children everywhere.
This is not how I pictured my life. My husband has said if I want the divorce…I should do it after his tenure…during the campaign…so it he can marry that woman who gave birth for him…to stand as his first lady during his campaign. He cannot divorce me, cos he wants to maintain the perfect family picture for his political advantage.
My family do not want me to leave my marriage because they know my husband is going for a higher political office…they want me to remain his first lady so they can continue to enjoy the benefits of my husband’s political career. That is why I am sad because I feel stuck. Lanre is not going to agree to this secret affair for another 8 years.
Please advice me. Staying will make everyone else happy except me. But leaving will cost me so much. Most of you maybe aware of a popular politician who seized their children from their mother and the poor woman has not seen her kids for years. I do not want that to be my case but does that mean I have to sacrifice my chance of ever being in love and being happy?
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