True Life Story: Why I Ended Up Being Like My Mom After Disliking Her For All My Life
Good evening Lively Stones,
I really do not know where to start from. I got your contact details online, I really need your advice and counselling. My story is long but I will try to summarize. I was 17 years old when I met Bambi (not real name). Bambi wanted to be my friend, he wanted me to be his girlfriend. Initially I refused because I was not ready to be intimate at that age. I never knew my mother because my mom got pregnant for me and left me with my dad. My dad raised me but he was never really there for me.
So meeting Bambi, I liked his character, he was also respectful and nice. It was like the attention I was seeking from the absence of a mother, Bambi was providing it. He became my confidant…I became comfortable with him. About some months later, Bambi told me that he wanted us to have S**. I was worried cos I did not want to have S** and get pregnant like my mother. I did not want to have a child and abandon the child cos I am not ready…so I refused but Bambi became persistent, telling me he will never abandon me and that he will always use protection.
I finally yielded to his pressure and had S** with him, he took my virginity. And he used a condom. A few more times, we had S** and he used condom again. Then later on, he said he is not enjoying S** with condom, he then told me he will use pull out method. I did not know the meaning of pull out method…so I asked him….he explained what it meant, so I reluctantly agreed.
Never miss a story — subscribe to Lively Stones Relationship Blog PUSH NOTIFICATION for daily Post to stay up-to-date on the best of what LIVELY STONES has to offer, from juicy celebrity relationship news, romantic articles to compelling true life stories.
When we had S** with pull out, he told me that he pulled out. After then, he travelled for a month and half. By that time, I noticed I didn’t see my period. I became worried. My body was also changing…I was putting on weight, sleeping alot and eating alot. I was scared. My dad also noticed and scolded me, that he hopes I am not pregnant…I told him I am not pregnant because I believed Bambi when he said pull out method prevents pregnancy. So , I was sure I could not be pregnant.
One morning, I started to vomit. My dad angrily took me to the lab for pregnancy test and I was confirmed pregnant. I could not believe my ears. I wanted to die….my dad was so angry that he beat me up mercilessly. Then he summoned Bambi. Bambi came and denied that he was responsible for my pregnancy. He kept saying he pulled out and so there is no way I could be pregnant.
Next thing, my dad started calling me names …that I will end up like my mom. That has been my biggest fear. My dad arranged for me to have an abortion immediately but the abortion did not work. The nurse said to my dad that I am anemic, that I would not survive an abortion. That the risk is too high. My dad brought me home very disappointed. Bambi left me, still saying he is not responsible. I could not believe how such a loving boyfriend turned against me.
More from Lively Stones
- How I Lost My Virginity After Three Years Of Engagement & Waiting
- True Life Story: My Fiancé’s Cousin Continues To Embarrass Me With Our Little Secret
I had no choice but to have the baby. And since the baby, my life has never remained the same. I could not continue my education. I do petty trading but it cant even take care of me and the baby. I am seeing my friends move up and progress in their lives, yet I am stuck here with this baby. I dislike seeing this baby. Now, I know why my mom never wanted me. But I feel sorry for the child cos its like its not her fault but I failed her.
Its been over three years now, I cannot seem to make any head way in life. I need help. Many times, I am suicidal and very depressed. I have tried to take my life several times …please need help, I need advise. I can’t carry on any longer. Please help.
Anonymous
Do you have a story to share? We want to hear all about it. Email us at [email protected] or Whatsapp +2348029870309
Share this
EDITOR’S NOTE:
Any assistance for the poster should be channeled through the WhatsApp No: +234 8029 8703 09 or +234 708 868 5881. Or email: [email protected]
What happened to you was very unfortunate, but I expected to be more protected of yourself hence your mom passed through same face, but however I won’t blame you much. Having a child at home isn’t really the end of the world, but is just that in your case you seems not to have supportive parents whom would have helped you pull through. I know is not very easy, but please remain focus and be careful of another Bambi because they always come at a deficulty time of one’s life. God bless you for not abandoning the child like your mom did.
Wow. You are a very brave young woman. I am so pleased that you are doing what you can for your baby but please love your baby don’t be like your mum there’s more that can still be achieved in life no matter the setbacks. I wish you the best of luck, and you are in my prayers.
I commend you for doing all you are doing for your daughter. I know it’s not easy but please love your baby. It’s not her fault. And know that having a baby at home is not the end of your life. First forgive yourself and somehow find strength within you through prayer with the help of God. Your life is not over and your beautiful tomorrow is possible only if you will believe in yourself and the power you have within you to excel. My prayers are with you dear. Sending you light and love
You need to be under someone’s guidance for now, so you don’t do something terrible.
Jzhane, you need to help this lady personally, if you can visit her physically and provide for her. This is why I always tell people S.e.x is ONLY for marriage.
My sister, I hope Jzhane will handle your issue personally and help you, you really money to take good care of yourself and baby.
Jzhane, it’s in your hands. PLEASE be on her case. Thanks.
I wish you well.
✌
I can tell from your story that you were deceived.
When we lack something, find them elsewhere, the person appears the best in our lives but life isn’t that way.
We have responsibility of building, learning and protecting ourselves as our strength can carry us.
I need you to know that God isn’t done with you and that child will be a blessing to you.
You must not allow other Bambi into your life again.
Search through the quick skill to learn and be optimistic about bouncing back and raising your child. Things will turn out for good.
Look for menial jobs to do and add to what you sell.
Ensure you are not misusing resources in your reach.
You can clean houses or sweep compounds, help people and get paid especially weekends.
Kindly send a message across of the skills you can learn. Be optimistic.
First understand that life is full of difficulties but your Maker who understands human difficulties, Him alone can help you out. So give Jesus a chance in your life by accepting him into your life as your Lord and Saviour. The whole world may abandoned you but Jesus will never abandoned you. His love is the only true love there is. Also go for counselling. Another thing is, take good care of your child. That child will be useful to you in future.The Lord will see you through