True Life Story: Will You Marry Me????
I said a resounding yes. I have been expecting this proposal like forever.
‘What took him so long to finally propose’ I thought.
I have been friends with my prince for like two years now, his name is Tony but I call him my prince charming in my heart since I am a princess.
“Princess I love you so much, you stole my heart away. I can’t imagine my life without you, I want you to be my queen and the mother of my children. I hope it is not too late to ask you to spend the rest …….” Tony was confessing his love to me just before my roommate woke me up from my dream.
“Wake up Princess, it is time to prepare for work” Beatrice said as she interrupted my dream again.
This is not the first time she will interrupt my dream, my roommate must be a dream killer. And to think she interrupted me when Tony was about reciting his love poem and affirming his love to me made me angry to the bone.
The dream felt so real that I could still feel the goosebumps when I woke up.
I was still thinking about the dream when Tony called me early that morning to check me up as he usually does.
For weeks I remembered that dream and I can’t stop smiling, I don’t need any one to tell me that I am in love with Tony and I am sure he loves me too. Though he have not said it plainly before, but his actions says it all.
He cares about me more than my roommates fiancé does for her, even my roommate gets jealous whenever she hears us talking and laughing on the phone sometimes.
We study the bible and pray together almost every week and we know each other like the back of our hands.
Tony had all the characters I want in a man, he is spirit filled, kind, generous, nice, caring, romantic and he is not the type of man with the African myopic mentality. He encourages me to be better and successful in my career, I couldn’t have asked for someone better.
He was just perfect and ideal, at least so I thought.
My world almost came crashing down the day I saw his wedding invitation on one whatsapp group that we both belonged too.
I didn’t pay so much attention to the invitation card at first because I never imagined that my prince charming will be getting married to someone else. It was later in the day that I was going through my whatsapp messages again that I saw congratulatory messages on the group and my own Tony was saying ‘thank you’ to almost all the message.
“This can’t be true, I must be having one of those dreams where my roommate will come and interrupt me” I thought.
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I picked my phone and dialed his number immediately to confirm what I saw, but the call didn’t go through because he was on another call.
I tried calling him several times but he was still on another call.
‘Maybe he is calling his wife to be’ I thought. The thought of it rose a hurricane anger inside my heart, so I decided to check the invitation card very well to confirm what I am thinking.
I checked the girl’s name and searched for her on Facebook
‘We even have 29 mutual friends’ I exclaimed. I checked through all her profile picture “she is not a match to my beauty” I said with so much pride.
After checking her profile pictures and assuring myself that my Tony wouldn’t even think of leaving me for her, as if we were even in any relationship in the first place.
I didn’t know when I dropped my phone in shock at the sight of their pre-wedding photos that she posted few hours ago on her wall.
She even wrote about how she met him, and how he proposed to her.
Reading the post made me even more angry and bitter, how come he never told me about her, how come he never told me he is getting married? I thought we were best friends, I thought he was going to propose to me one day, I have even imagine how we will snap our pre-wedding pictures and all the wedding plans.
I sat down on the floor in my room and cried my eyes out, thank God my roommate travelled to see her parent in preparation for her wedding that is coming up in two months time, so I had the room to myself to cry.
Crying is an understatement sef, I was wailing like someone who just lost her dear husband that night.
I remembered how my roommate always warned me about assumptions, she told me several times that I should be careful with how I relate with Tony and to be sure of where the relationship was heading to. But I didn’t even answer her.
A simple question like “Where is this friendship heading to?” would have saved me of this heartache.
“If a man wants you he will say it in plain words, you won’t need to start guessing before you know if he wants you or not” that was what Beatrice told me one night after she asked me if myself and Tony have started dating and I said No.
She looked at me like I was out of my mind or something, and now I can’t but look at myself and shake my head to my stupid!ty too.
I have built my whole life around Tony, I even changed his name on my contact to my prince charming recently.
I have rejected 2 proposal this year without even thinking about it twice, with the hope that my prince charming will propose soon.
When he was saying those Sweet words like ‘any man will be lucky to have you Princess, you are the definition of a virtuous woman, you are dear to my heart and so on” I should have asked him what he meant by those words, but I just simply thought that was his own way of professing his love to me.
How stup!d I was?
I should be handed the award of the most stup!d and gullibl£ girl ever.
I didn’t pick his call that night, I wasn’t in the right mind and I didn’t want to sound miserable or desperate on the phone.
My roommate came back and I couldn’t hide my pain and regret from her for too long even though I tried to drown my pains by watching Korean movies.
But the Korean movies wasn’t even helping the matter, they made me more emotional and they reminded me of how I have dreamt of Tony and I.
I tried to avoid talking to Tony on the phone and I tried not to confront him about our friendship and why he never even mentioned his fiancée to me.
I simply congratulated him on whatsapp and tried to pretend that everything was fine. But moving on was more difficult than I thought, I became less active as the day went by and my roommate was forced to ask me what was wrong, and I couldn’t keep it to myself again too, the pain was kill!ng me slowly, so I spilled the beans.
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She felt my pain and consoled me but not without reminding me about how she warned me several times. She also adviced me not to confront him about it, because it will only make me look more stup!d.
I tried to heed to her advice this time but I couldn’t, I needed to clear the air and at least free myself from the ang£r and bitterne$s that have made my heart their abode for a while now.
But His response to my accusations shattered the remaining broken pieces of my heart that was left.
“I never knew you had such feelings for me, I only saw you as a a friend, mentee and a younger sister I never had” Tony said.
Did he just say younger sister he never had, I felt like giving him a resounding sl@p but I restrained myself. After all it was all my fault, if I had asked questions and make clarification about our friendship before jumping into conclusions then I won’t be in this mess right now.
Infact I think I am the one that needs a resounding slap that will reset me back to default setting.
He tried to apologise for leading me on, but his apologies fell on deaf ears. He tried to reach out to me after that day, but the last thing I wanted was self pity.
I don’t know if he was being sincere or not, because I now question my sense of judgement myself.
As weeks went by, I consoled myself with the fact that I was still young and beautiful and my real Prince will come soon.
But several years have passes and I am still very much single and waiting for my prince charming to come, but I doubt if God will give me a second chance or maybe there is no prince charming anywhere.
Tony is married with two kids now, and here I am still waiting on God at 34 years old.
Now I know that assumption is really a killer, a very dangerous one at that…….
My dear, ask him question today!!!
Don’t say because you love him, you assume the feeling is mutual, and you are already planning your life around him making him the perfect man for you and rejecting the real men’s proposals
Wake Up from your sleep before it’s too late.
Ask questions like:
- What are we?
- Are we dating, or courting or just friends?
- Define our relationship?
Before it’s to late
Don’t say I didn’t tell you
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