Good evening sir
pls post for me and hide my identity
I am a confused Lady I don’t really know what to do my fiancé just changed over night after marriage introduction he now cheat on me he always lie to me his yes is his no he doesn’t care about my feelings this is a guy that I viewed as the best because he was different.
i named him unique but now he tells me when to come to his and when not to if I come without his consent he will never open his gate for me when I saw used condom in the toilet then ask he was angry that I don’t have right to ask him any question he said I talks too much because I do complained about his character and he still with his ex they cal and visit visit him.
recently out of argument BC i came without telling him he shouted that i should never come to his house without telling him first that since I have been asking about my stand with him that he is not interested again that shey i wanted to marry, i should just go to one of my suitors later we settled things that day…
this is were am confused am not comfortable with his new character I cry almost everyday, everybody in my town knows us and calls me his wife even people that doesn’t know me now know me because we are from the same town and they are expecting the wedding this December his mother took me as her own daughter and keep telling me not to mind him we are too attached.
now, my family is expecting them this December and age is not at my side I don’t know how to handle this pls advice me sorry for the long post pls notify me when posted thanks.
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Please go on your knees and pray, it’s not the time to cry but to pray, ask God for a speedy angle to change things for you, in the night things ll turn around,it could be a setback from your family or his to stop both of you to marry
Good luck
As much as age is not on your side, marrying this guy means you are marrying yourself. He won’t change after wedding he will only get worse… imagine you crying everyday that you are yet to be married to him…
My candid advice is to just walk away from this toxic relationship…
In fact if he comes back begging please dont accept him…
Cheers.
My sister I fo really feel your pains as you’ve described this unfortunate situation happening right now. It’s so hurtful and no one has to go through what your boyfriend is putting you through.
This relationship I see is toxic to you as it affecting your state of mind as it is.
Please separate from this guy emotionally, physically and otherwise and think straight.
Is this how you want to be when you’re married? I know age isn’t on your side like you’ve said but I don’t see a happy union with this new development.
Relax and think, if you can live with this then continue but if you cannot and that guy doesn’t change for sure please break up forever before you get into something you’ll regret.
Best regards…
Broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Walk away
This is very sad but my sister.. you should even be thanking God you are seeing it now. Please forget about the age issue and run for your life.
I don’t know your relationship with God but i can assure you that if you trust God, He will bring the right person your way. And one amazing thing about God is that, after waiting all those years and you finally get the right man for you, He will package all the blessings you lost over the years and add it to your marriage and that is when you will realize how faithful He is to those who wait upon Him. He will make all things beautiful for you.
Talk to your family, let them call off the wedding and move on. Don’t give up, commit your ways and plans to Him especially concerning your future husband and He will bring Him into your path. The right man for you will locate you and everything will make sense.
Please, if you want to enter into a marriage that you will enjoy and not endure, don’t marry that guy. He doesn’t love you.
Nobody is going to suffer with you, so never think of what everybody is going to say because you will suffer alone.
Who says age is not on your side ?
Seek God sincerely, trusting Him for a husband and you will see His settle the matter.
Cheers
Give him sometime and see if his brain will be correct,if it doesn’t correct please find your square root,marriage is not by force. God will make a way,okay. Introduction is not marriage, thank God he is showing his true self.
Someone said: a broken engagement is far better than a broken marriage!
I think God wanted you to see this side of your fiance before you finally marry him…
Now, you see who he is…and you know its not a good idea to marry him…
It may be tough but ultimately, you will be glad you left instead of going ahead with this big mistake….
Dear sister, it is better to be single than to be a frustrated married woman and it is not how early you marry but how well the marriage last. Please stop looking at your age because it’s just a no .
Some married at early of 25 and are still looking for fruit of the womb till 40 years, some married early and died early cos of the frustration in the marriage.
It is better for you to marry late and marry for joy and happiness than to marry early and end up in sorrow and pain. Maybe you are looking at your age and decided to love this guy excessively that he doesn’t regard u anymore cos it seems u are the one forcing your self in his life.
Dear Sis, please engage urself in something that will take off your mind from him and pray to God to bless you with a good partner and trust me,God will answer you. For sure,there are ups and downs in a relationship but when there is love and understanding, u must settle and be happy again cos true love doesn’t count wrong and easily forgives . Please stop throwing yourself to the man as if you don’t have a worth. Keep away from him and let him know u worth more than gold.
Finally, earnestly pray to God for directions. It’s possible that God is showing u sign now for u not to enter a toxic marriage but u are not getting it. Please look before you leap.
I wish you the best of luck in marriage.