I See Signs Of Cheating But The Evidence Is Confusing-Pls Advise
Please post this for me. Three weeks ago, my wife became sick. We have been married for 5 years. I work in Lagos but she and the children are here in Ibadan. Because of cost of living, we agreed she will stay in Ibadan when I got a job here. Since I left for Lagos, I have been suspecting my wife of cheating.
This is because, she started going for night vigil almost every other night. I don’t know when she joined one fellowship and she will say they are having prayer vigils. She leaves the children to my younger sister who lives with us and goes till next morning. This vigil matter has caused problems with me and her.
I tell her though that all this rubbish will stop cos I don’t like it. She now makes it look like I am a pagan for stopping her from praying at vigils. It was my younger sister who actually told me that she is suspecting my wife because during the day,my wife is always on her phone and different men come to her shop where she does hair dressing.
My wife accused my sister of wanting to destroy her marriage because I told her I would close the store if men keep coming there. Fine, the salon is unis*x but its the behavior of being too free with men that concerns me.
Even with my neighbors. I had to ban her from entering the flat of one of the neighbors that is single. The young man is from our place but the closeness and friendliness was generating gossip in the compound.
Until now, I could not place any evidence to actually accuse my wife of anything but I told my sister to be very observant. Three weeks ago, my wife became very sick. She was finding it difficult to breathe and before we knew it, she had some rashes on her private part and tongue.
We treated her with malaria, typhoid and antibiotics but she was not getting better. So, thinking it was covid-19, we referred her to UCH for the test and all. They carried out covid-19 test and started treating her for covid. You know the test result took like a week before it came back. By this time,we were convinced my wife was covid positive.
I was praying cos, my kids and myself could actually be positive if my wife is. But when the test result came, it was negative. The doctors were marveled. They kept asking my wife if she is engaging in unprotected s*x …she said yes but only with me. They carried out a test and found out that my wife has herpes.
Herpes is a viral S*xually transmitted disease. I was then asked to come for test and I got my result this week…I was negative. Now, my wife has got to explain how she got herpes. She is claiming to ready to swear that she did not have s*x with anyone …that she had covid..that I bribed the doctor to say its STD so I can finally discredit her.
This woman clearly had s*x with someone cos from what the doctor said, if I am negative, then my wife got it from someone else because its transmitted by contact with someone who has it. My wife has returned home…but she has still refused to admit she cheated. She has been saying the test is wrong or I bribed the doctor.
Next thing, she goes for test in some hospital where they said she had typhoid infection. Now she is claiming that I and my sister just want to frame her but the test from UCH cannot be wrong or can it? The doctors there are specialists….
What other proof do I need to show this woman is cheating? If she is not cheating…how come she has herpes? I have read about this and its mainly through intercourse one can get it. I no longer trust my wife…I may not have caught her red handed but something is not right…
Am I crazy for suspecting my wife? Are these signs not enough evidence? What do you think?
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Your wife is lieing obviously. Report her to her family. She has to be accountable. Also go to the church and see her pastor.
Your wife is a cheat and doesn’t want to admit. I will advice you to be very careful so she doesn’t infect you oooo. And she has to stop that nonsense, what rubbish?
Protect your life……….make sure you put her on a hot seat till she confess…..that’s how you can decide how to move forward…….but you have choices to make here….this is serious,wat if it was HIV so that how you will pass and go o…..think deep and decide how to move forward
Hey there. First thing to do is to conduct the test at least twice in 2 different hospitals. Get the results. Before you can make any conclusion if she is lying or not. The next thing is to decide if you should forgive her with her stern warning or not…. Herpes is a serious STD. One of the not so easy to be treated STDs. Many people are still suffering from it since it keeps reoccurring and proving stubborn to antibiotics just like staphylococcus. You should thank God you are negative. Some people deal with STDs for a very long time without cure. So the decision is yours to make.