True Life Story: My Brother Neglected His Beautiful Wife And This Happened Pt 3
PLEASE READ PART 1 & 2 OF THIS STORY HERE & HERE
Hi Lively Stones,
Things have gotten out of hand. Things have gone from bad to very bad and worse. This is no longer child’s play o…my brother is ready to murder some body. I read the comments and advise from all those who commented on my story and I honestly wanted to take the advise of the house. I wanted to leave my brother’s house immediately before he does something terrible. So, I told Peace that I was planning to leave and that she should also do the same.
I advised her to forget about confessing to the husband or trying to blackmail him with videos of him beating her cos he would destroy those videos and because he is a rich and influential man, no one would really believe her. Peace saw reason with me and agreed to leave with me in a few days. She was supposed to pack some stuff without her husband knowing, she has saved some money and we felt we could leave the house and find somewhere to relocate to and start afresh.
My thinking was, we should leave the house immediately. We can go to a neighborhood on the mainland, find a motel to stay and later find a small apartment to stay. She can start looking for a job as a cleaner or house help while we plan the future together. I was ready to try dry cleaning which was what I was doing before. Peace agreed it was better to leave the children with their dad and come back when they are grown and she can explain what happened to them.
So, we planned that evening. That she would bring her things to my place and we will leave immediately after my brother leaves for work the next morning. But things happened that night. I believe my brother had either the gateman or cleaner spying on us. Because that night, around 3am, I heard shouting from my brother’s apartment. It was clear, my brother was beating his wife: Peace.
I wanted to come out to see what was happening but the gateman ran to me to start running ….that Oga is coming for me. I was like, how did the gateman know anything but he just told me, Oga has a gun and he is beating madam. I was afraid. Next thing, I started hearing my name. My brother was shouting my name. I only had time to pick my phone and wallet, I ran out of the house around 3am.
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I begged the estate security who is my friend to help me hide…he quickly asked me to hide behind their post. My brother drove to estate gate and asked them if they saw me, they said no. He was still holding his AK 47. He was mad. I was afraid he was going to kill Peace but I also knew he would kill me if I stayed back. Around 4.30am, I left the estate.
My phone kept ringing. My brother kept calling me but I did not answer. Next thing, family members started calling me. I still refused to answer. My brother sent sms , like 11 sms…that if I do not show up, he will kill Peace and find me where ever I am. I thought about going to the police but I know the police cannot help me…maybe they can help peace but will they even believe me, will they be able to challenge my brother?
I got to a motel and began to think of what to do. I felt so bad to have left Peace by herself so I called her elder brother and told him everything. He was so upset and said if anything happens to his sister , he will come after me and my brother. Well, I do not think he can challenge my brother because he is in the village and has no money but I felt for him and Peace.
My family members are now calling me to go and beg my brother. That he has beaten Peace so much, she is in a very bad shape. He has locked her up in a room. No one sees her anymore. Her family is begging me to go and beg my brother. They want him to forgive Peace but they say until I come back, he says he will not forgive her. That he wants to look me in the eye and ask me why I betrayed him after all he has done for me. They say my brother has placed a ban and curse on me. The ban is, I will no longer be allowed into our family and the curse is that sickness will follow me and my generation.
They are all saying Peace told them that I threatened her to sleep with me. That my brother wants me and Peace to come and swear. Adultery of a wife from my place is banishment of the woman from our place. Peace and I have been banished. But the husband has refused to release her until he sees me. I know Peace must have said those things because she was afraid but I never forced or threatened her. She was the one who came to me.
I have explained this to her brother. But we all know that my brother will not let Peace go until he sees me. Should I go and see my brother for the sake of Peace? I do not mind taking the blame for it. He may do anything to me but he cannot kill me cos I am his flesh and blood. I just want him to stop torturing Peace. My mind keeps telling me I should keep running and never return home but another mind tells me if I do not take the blame, Peace condition might get worse.
I just feel so bad for Peace…I wish I could do something but I have no money or power like my brother. My family members are all in support of my brother. They say I should go and settle with my brother, that they will intervene but I must go and beg his forgiveness. I do not think I can do that …that is too risky…does that make me a bad person?
As for Peace, is there any NGO or group that can help me release her from her husband’s house arrest? She is a victim and needs help. I am not even thinking of myself. Even if I see my brother, what if things get worse for her? It looks like I am the only one that can help her. That means I have to sacrifice myself.
I know we both did wrong but circumstance led to it. But this is not what we planned. It happened because of the pain I saw my brother’s wife was going though. I only wanted to help but temptation got the best of us tooo and now, it has gotten out of hand. Now, I accept responsibility for my mistakes…I accept all the abuse and insult but even if I have to see my brother to beg, it cannot be now that he is full of rage…all I am thinking of now is Peace…she is in danger and we need help.
Anonymous
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I said it in my post that sooner or later your brother will unleash anger and vengeance,and it is already happening.
You have to run very very fast,as fast as your legs can carry you. Stay away from that vicinity,stay away from family and friends,your brother is still very much angry,there is no one in his shoes that will not do the unthinkable. He has paid spies to monitor you,run away, run,don’t pick calls for now,he has a gun,huh.
Be careful,Peace will be fine,when your brother calms down,she will definitely be fine.
It is well,you need to go to God in prayers,you have been banished,your brother has laid a curse,you need to pray for forgiveness.
It is well,I believe you have learnt your lesson.
This is not good! See rage!!
Thats the case , a sword bearer wont want a sword to be used on him. Your Brother that is matreating his wife and womanising, is now letting hell loose!
Theres nothing like a woman being empowered. even if youre a house wife, have a stream of income ,not waiting for man 100% for everything. she would have made a case at the time of maltreatments , instead of resulting to adultery.
As for you Brother, you see now that stolen water is sweet but.. see where it has landed you.
Honestly, i think you should give it time before seeing him or possibly, go with family members to see him.
i dont know if the police entertain such complaint so you lodge a case ahead ,in case anything goes wrong. But browse NGOs that are near you , lodge the issue ,possibly they ll be able to help Peace.
i strongly sense you ll want to go meet your brother now, cos of her. well, its up to you BUT dont make any move on this matter alone. involve the above mentioned.
Once everything is sorted, leave Peace alone o. YOU CANT MARRY HER , THATS THE TRUTH.
When we tell them to not be friends with other mens wives, they call us assistant JESUS. In your last post, I told you, you are wicked man. See how Peace even lied against you that you forced her to sleep with you, remember I told you you allowed her to manipulate you.
You definitely dont know women, if you know the punishment for adultery, it is straight to hell, it is almost murder, and won’t hold words back from you, I love you too much to downplay this evil you have done.
Family members should first be there to calm your brother.
Leave mens wives, you won’t hear, you will all be forming the woman is be neglected, her husband doesn’t take care of her, what is your business. You even called your brother a scum and even planned to kill him because of a woman.
Repent brother, but remember that if you find out your wife is cheating on you when you marry, remember you too slept with another man’s wife.
I wish you well.
✌️
Dear Poster,
This is what called big fat mess. All I can see here is a big mess of pain that you all have gotten entangled with.
And it looks like the web is getting thicker with every step you guys take.
So here is my advise for poster and anyone in similar situation:
1. If you know anyone in an abusive marriage, you cannot play the here. You cannot help them except they are ready to take some decisions by themselves.
2. The best way to help people in abusive marriages to either refer them to government and NGO agencies that can help them. That is if they are ready to receive help.
Do not get involved personally. You may be taking the laws into your hands.
3. Do not in anyway become overly sensitive or emotionally involved directly or indirectly with anyone in a physical or emotional abusive relationship. You might be blinded by emotions and become a victim as well
4. The family of the victim should be in the forefront of the intervention for the abuse victim where the victim cannot help. If the family is incapable, then the government agencies like women affairs, NGOs, Pro Bono Lawyers should be contacted to help
5. Do not get in between a married couple’s marital issues by having S** with any of them, when they are not legally divorced. Its adultery.
6. If you find yourself in the same situation as the poster, leave the situation and go start life somewhere else. There is no forgiveness with the husband now. Ask God to forgive you and start a fresh life. Send your brother a letter to explain that you are sorry for your mistakes and hopes he can forgive you one day but never even think for a second of meeting him one on one until years later and it must be in the company of others so he may never take advantage to take his revenge on you.
As for the wife….seek help from government, family members and NGOs like the Lagos State Women Affairs Agency in Alausa Ikeja, Lagos
I hope you never find yourself in this kind of mess in future. Never meddle when you are not a professional that has been engaged to help an abuse victim.
Above all, pray for healing…for everyone that has been hurt by this disaster.
Shalom.
Well said ma’am.
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