True Life Story: My Brother’s Widow Is Using Our Tradition To Seduce Me-FINAL PART
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My wife then asked me, that what is my decision on Amaka…that am I going to be forced by tradition to marry her….my answer is no but Amaka said I should marry her cos I had S** with her cos she does not think she wants to sleep with me for now.
So, if I need a woman in my life, for S** or anything…I can go for Amaka while she decides if she still wants to be in this marriage again. My wife is hurting from what I could tell…she was not herself anymore….she was looking like a ghost …lost so much weight in a few days…..she cannot let me touch her …she now sleeps on the floor in our room….cos she said she cannot share the same bed that I had S** with Amaka on….
Me, I am confused….my wife cannot sleep on our bed cos she said I had S** with Amaka on the bed…..and yet she says if I like, I can marry Amaka but she must remain in the village and never step foot in our house in the city. Now, I am confused….this woman said she cannot forgive me for cheating on her….yet said I can marry the same woman I cheated with? That was when I knew something was not adding up…
When I asked my wife why she even considered asking me to marry Amaka: she said, because I desecrated my brother’s widow and so I must take responsibility for my actions so our generations unborn will not bear the consequences. So how does my wife believe in tradition yet she refused to swear? I am confused myself…my wife said she is not against second wife but if I had even come to her, to tell her I liked Amaka, she would not have felt bad cos she liked Amaka and she would not have said no cos she knows men are somehow polygamous. That it was better I was with someone she had awareness of.
What is going on here? My wife is not making sense….For the first time, I am thinking….maybe I really do not know my wife as much as I think…that small voice of doubt is telling me…maybe my wife was actually my late brother’s lover….if not, why will she even suggest with this barbarian plan to marry my late brother’s widow. …right now….we are waiting for the decision of the elders of the village to judge on whether I must marry Amaka or not.
My uncle said since my wife has given consent….I can marry Amaka if the family and elders insist, that way, I can continue to be the father of my brother’s son and he will not be raised by a stranger. That Amaka should just apologize to my wife for the way she behaved….the lies and forcibly trying to insert herself into our marriage?
Please…what are you thinking I should do? I never considered myself in this situation…how do I make this right with my wife…My wife even though gave approval, will never trust me again and I do not know if I can live with that…I love my wife alot….she was there when I had nothing…she contributed to where I am today. Yet…I wonder if she is doing this to just make me stop suspecting her with my late brother?
So for the last time, I asked my wife to tell me the truth if she had anything to do with my brother….that I will not let anyone know if she did….my wife looked at me with tears in her eyes…she said: my husband, you have to marry Amaka….I was wrong and failed you but do not ask me to tell you anything cos the truth is better dead than alive…so marry Amaka so that our sins will not pass unto our unborn generations. That she felt I was better than her…she trusted me but even now…
My wife feels God is punishing her for her past and she does not know if she can ever trust again. She even said maybe God is angry with my brother, maybe that is why he died. That she feels it’s her turn to be punished and Amaka is her punishment…so she is ready to accept her punishments.
Where do I go from here? My wife has indirectly confessed there was an affair with my brother….I promised not to tell any one and I do not want to marry Amaka…she is evil and wants to destroy my home….I was wrong to sleep with her….my wife was wrong to have an affair but is that enough for me to marry someone who has no good intention for myself and my family?
So the main thing remaining is: how do I stop Amaka’s family from laying a curse on us….especially because what Amaka said was true and I had S** with their daughter. If they lay the curse…will it really work? As for my wife…can I really forgive her? There are so many questions in my head…like why did she cheat…how long was she cheating? … I know its hard but she said she cannot forgive herself…is she being sincere? Or trying to whine me…maybe to make me feel sorry for her.
Why are all these happening? now, there is curse waiting for me….and my wife says I must marry Amaka…my wife….and I are completely broken….how to go on…how do we build our marriage again? Please pray for us…maybe people are even tired of this our matter but please advise us. I do not know how we can survive this.
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