True Life Story: The Worst Christmas Ever-Enemies Have Taken Over My Home-Pt 2
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Hi Jzhane,
Thank you for checking on me. Honestly, I thank everyone who also shared their advise. Truly, I have not been happy. When I sent my story, I was almost getting to my home town. And I did not hear from my husband even when I got home. I later sent him an sms that I have arrived home and he replied saying thank God. I waited for his call but he did not call until the next day. When he called, he just spoke for like 2 mins, said he is rushing somewhere and that was all.
That Christmas day was very sad for me. My parents were not happy but they said I should relax, that after Christmas, they will call my husband. So, on boxing day, my dad called my husband. He did not pick but towards evening, he called back. My dad queried my husband for letting his mother treat me that way. My husband said he is tired of all the fight happening and he does not know what to do anymore.
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The next thing my husband said, shocked my dad. My husband told my dad that maybe its for the best that we separate because he cannot continue to watch his wife and mother fight. My dad now asked him if he really meant it, my husband kept quiet. My dad had to hang up the call on my husband. A family meeting was called and it was agreed that I should decide if I still want the marriage or not, because my husband has suggested separation. I could not even say anything. I was just crying cos I never expected my husband to mention separation after so many years….after all the abortions.
I stayed in my parents place until New Year eve night. I called my husband and he picked. I poured out my heart and told him how he has hurt and betrayed me. He was like, he is very sorry for mentioning separation, that he was confused ….he now said that I should come back home. I told him I am not coming back until he talks to his mother and family to stay clear and stop meddling. He said he will talk to them. Then he spoke to my father but my father said he wants my husband to come and see him.
I think my husband was afraid cos he could not come to see my dad. By the 3rd of January, I had to get my things and come back home. When I got back home, me and hubby talked. I was really hurt. His mother and siblings were gone but they used all my food stuff. So, the next day, I went to the market to buy things for the house. I cooked and waited for my husband to get back home but he did not get back until almost mid night. I was surprised cos my husband does not spend late nights and if he did, he would tell me where he was but this time, he did not take my call or tell me where he was.
When I asked him where he was, he did not answer me. When I told him his food was ready, he said he is not hungry, that he ate before coming home. My husband has never eaten outside since we got married. My husband has never ignored my question before now. Mummy Jzhane, I think my husband is cheating because, he did the same thing yesterday. He stayed late and came back around 1am again. This time, I did not ask him. I tried to make a move so we can make love and he rejected me. He has never rejected my s3x before.
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Then I asked him if he is cheating on me…he ignored me. He slept and next morning, he kept ignoring me through out. I have been so disturbed and at loss about what to do next before you called me to check on me. So, this is the situation right now. My husband is keeping late nights, not eating my food, not making love to me, not answering my questions and now….giving me the silent treatment. I do not know what is going on …I am even so afraid of asking questions because I suspect there is a woman involved…and I am scared that I don’t know how this marriage is going to survive this year.
Please continue to put me in your prayers and continue to share your advice cos…its like….things are already falling apart. I have been praying since…please join me to pray, to know what to do next cos if I tell my family, they will ask me to return home. Or should I just leave since he does not want to talk to me….maybe he is trying to frustrate me to file for divorce….This situation has completely drained me. Please help me with advice.
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Dear poster,you shouldn’t have left your home for strangers in the first place,your absence in that house contributed to your husband’s sudden strange behaviour towards you.
When you left,your husband started seeing another lady,you gave him the chance couple with what his mum and siblings have told him already.
Your husband is a push about, he’s not firm, he’s a mummy’s boy, he’s not man enough, it’s such a pity you got yourself involved and entangled with such a baby boy.
Here is my advice darling,I will rather separate from a man who will not give me peace than remain in a marriage of no love,peace,unity, harmony,a union full of conspiracy from the husband’s family,a marriage that wants to put my enemy into depression,I jump and pass bikonu
You need to be bold and brave now, remain in your home if you still love him ooooo and adjust to his attitude,don’t ask questions again,get use to his nasty behaviour,keep yourself busy ,face your work , behave as though he doesn’t exist in that house and let’s see who gets tired.
Don’t leave that house until he says he wants a divorce,just remain and mind your business. If he wants a divorce,you have to take 80% of his properties,you know why? He made you abort so many children,he caused you pains ,his family are stressing you already,no gree for anybody my sister.
Peace be unto you soul nnem,I love you!
You shouldn’t have left in the first place, but, it’s a mistake that cannot be reversed.
Now to the situation on ground.
Stand your ground. Your husband is a part and parcel of your present condition, so he has to pass through it with you.
As long as he’s not physically abusive, stay put.
You have been fighting by yourself, it’s time to involve your Maker. God is the SOLUTION to every problem.
Ask for His help. Start by developing a personal relationship with God. Look for a bible believing church that prays and does deliverance. Hand over the battle to God. He will come through for you.
Whatever your hubby is exhibiting is a combination of frustration, confusion, family and indecisiveness.
You are back, then fill your home with love, praises, joy and be as attractive as ever.
Get busy with your work or business, if you don’t have any, start one now.
Do not let the devil occupy his heart. Show him love, care and pray without ceasing.
Pray earnestly for your marriage.
It could be that the night you guys clubbed might bring you joy.
Don’t leave yet. No matter what he does, don’t leave your home for anyone or him.
Let him be for now, he will surely come around.
When he notice how so attractive, busy and productive you are, he will be attracted again to you.
Just focus on yourself, work and keep faith for God’s intervention.
For your family, don’t share this yet except he becomes abusive.
I wish you well.