True Life Story: Why I Borrowed Money From A Married Man Who Wants To Sleep With Me
Good evening Lively Stones,
I am in a very deep fix and I need some advice. My name is Mercy (not real name) I am 28 years old. I met my baby daddy three years ago, he was my Supervisor at a five star restaurant. I got attracted to him cos I thought he was very intelligent and handsome. Plus, he used to talk about Christian stuff alot at work. He even used to share Christian books at work. I wanted a man who loved God. So, when he started paying me attention, I was very happy.
We were together for about two months before we had s3x. At first,he seemed like he regretted having s3x with me cos he is a serious Christian but after a while, it became, normal…he said he wanted to marry me. This guy was just a smooth criminal….I discovered all that church thing was just a front…we were very s3xually active….he demanded s3x every day from me and me too…My head got carried away. I thought it was love. I got pregnant and everything changed. He wanted me to abort it but I went to report to his pastor and they forced him to keep the pregnancy. They kicked against abortion cos it was a sin but they could not force him to marry me. From that time, he started treating me bad that I regretted keeping the pregnancy.
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I discovered he was seeing other girls too. I had to quit my jib during the pregnant and Smith (my baby daddy) could barely provide for me. He wanted me to suffer to deciding to keep the pregnancy. Things have been so tough. Then Smith lost his job and things became much harder. Then he became nicer to me again. We started living as a couple even though not married. A a couple of months ago, Smith got a job as a driver. The job would take him in and out of Lagos every day.
Myself, I have been looking for a job but Smith said I should not work cos our baby is still young. But staying at home without money is too hard. So he said he will give me some after he can save for a while. So, I can start a business. But last month, a woman introduced me to a business that will make me quick money to sell some things this Christmas. I needed like 100k to start the business. Smith said he did not have money. I was determined not to loose the opportunity so I had to go to my former company and begged the cooperative Manager to loan me the money.
It is because the man is from the same village as me and he has been toasting me since I was in the company years ago. He gave me the loan and said I must return it before month end so no one will know. He also said if I agree to be his side chick cos hes married, but he is very attractive man too….he will forget the 100k with me. I had no choice but to agree…but I promised to return the money, not to be his side chick. He insisted and I said ok. I was desperate.
And then, I dont know what happened but on the day I was going to buy the items to sell, the 100k was stolen from me….I have no idea how it happened but I lost 100k and I almost died. The bus I entered, I think there we pick pockets cos I did not even notice when the money was taken from me. The bad thing was I did not even tell Smith that I took a loan from our former cooperative. If Smith knows I took money from a man that has been toasting me since over four years, he will be mad at me.
Now, I am in very deep looking for how to pay cos the man has to pay back the cooperative with his Salary so they dont find out. But he said I have to sleep with him if I don’t want him to get the police involved. At least, that way, I can say I paid him back in kind. He has been pressuring me but I told him I cant because I am with my baby daddy. He then told me to stop being foolish, that my baby daddy is not being faithful to me, that he cannot even assist me financially and yet I want to remain faithful to him. He also said, that he knows Smith will not marry me because Smith has several girlfriends, some still in the company and they are still together. That girls are still fighting over him.
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I am in deep sh*t. This man is pressuring me…for s3x….else he will go to the police that he gave me cooperative money and I scammed him. Or even tell Smith. What should I do? Should I just sleep with him as payment for the money? That way, Smith will not find out…but then….will that be like I am cheating on Smith? Please advice me….I am lost and don’t know what to do. I need to save myself from embarrassment.
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Dear Poster,
Your position as a baby mama is bad enough.
Going to add another will be the beginning of higher and greater embarrassment you are running away from.
I don’t want to ask some questions but these are things you should ponder on.
You are an adult and I’m sure you know that sleeping with that man has lots of issues attached to it.
If the man can ask for sex and present an accusation which you don’t have a proof of on Smith then he is up to no good.
You must tell Smith about it and the man’s request. It’s a proof of your sincerity and a potential good wife.
If you sleep with him, he will come for more. You will get exposed eventually, or take in again.
If you sleep with him, he would have an evidence and even send you away from Smith with lots of troubles in the relationship. With Smith, you have chances of giving your child a father coverage and influence. If you loose him since he isn’t legally married to any of those girls, you will be an intentional loser.
Your corporative manager won’t father your child or marry you tomorrow.
Every favour shouldn’t end in sexual exchange.
If you truly have self respect, tell him NO and share this story without removing any part to Smith and next time, avoid such men. You were playing smart but got in a fix.
You can turn around to your family members and friends to assist you and negotiate to pay by the end of January.
I suspect that man doesn’t like Smith and maybe angry cos he took a girl he like from him. Be careful. He might just be trying to get even with Smith and use you only.
I don’t subscribe to sleeping with him and if you do, it won’t end well. Married men are sacred beings and every encounter with them come with repercussions.
Be warned!
Dear poster ,sorry for being in this deep shit and mess but you caused this whole thing.
You should have just aborted the baby but you insisted on keeping the child, is the child not suffering now? This child has not started school oooo,the child has not even started eating well -made meals ooo and things are already like this,hummmmm! It’s well oooo
You are living with Smith and both of you are still cohabiting without marriage,make sure you don’t get pregnant again ooooo,I’m not judging you oooo but I’m only thinking out loud .
Here is my advice,go to the police and report yourself,if you sleep with the man,you will be in a more bigger mess and shit,he will blackmail you and keep blackmailing you until you sleep with him one million times,so report yourself to the police, explain to them what happened and how you intend paying him back,inform Smith too,maybe he can assist you in paying some.
Next time no loose guard,be vigilant when entering commercial vehicles,those people are smarter than you think,some use jazz,some will even use blade to tear your bag without you knowing it,and they will take your money, phones and valuables.
Be wiser next time! Udo
Engaging in intimate activities for financial reasons can lead to emotional and ethical challenges or even blackmail. It’s important to prioritize your well-being and explore alternative solutions, such as budgeting, seeking financial advice, or finding additional sources of income. If you’re facing financial difficulties, consider discussing your situation with Mr Smith or a trusted friend, family member, or financial advisor for support and guidance in the future inorder not to be kicked out if you still want Mr Smith as your life partner let him atleast seek your consent and pay your dowry to avoid story that touches the heart I wish all the very best